Is it normal for my boyfriend to live at my place rent and bill free?

Hi, I moved in with my bf for more than a year now. he's been going through a tough time with work, practically unemployed for almost a year now. we argue all the time: about his unemployment, how he is so choosy in which jobs he takes, how he has no motivation to study or take up a skill, not paying his share of the rent or bills but yet having enough money to buy himself a seventy pound suit and hang out with his mates over drinks after drinks. it was my birthday last week, and yes no form of present no matter how tiny. on the other hand, he bought my flatmate a shirt and told me my birthday present was that he gave up smoking. you see he never used to be like this, before he was really the dream bf who was attentive, generous and pampering. but because now i am the one in the relationship who owns a stable job and can pay the rent, I tend to get the feeling he finds it completely impossible to financially share any responsibility with me. and he doesn't get it whenever we argue over money matters. he just tells me I am a lowly money minded person. but really I am upset over how he prefers to spend whatever little money on himself rather than on the two of us. Althouigh I am earning money, whatever money I have, I spend it on the two of us i.e. bills, rent, food etc... am I being unreasonable to be upset? I just do not want to be walked over again because I have learnt from a previous relationship where I went out with a real bastard conman who cheated me of a lot of money. and I was made the fool. I am so scared to be made the fool again! so now, after numerous countless exhausting arguements, as much as I love this man and really believe in he is a good person, I have asked him many times to move out... this just end up as tears and fighting again and we get back together back to square one... what am I doing?