Is it normal for my boyfriend to like younger women?

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First let me start with how my boyfriend and I met. He first saw me when I was about 13/14 shopping in the local candy store that he worked at in the mall. He was about 29/30 at the time. I started working at the his store shortly afterwards and this is how we got to know each other. he gave me free sweets sometimes even a large box of caramel sweets, he used to let me have special lolly pops too.

We stared dating about four years later and that is when he admitted to me he was attracted to me back then but he obviously never acted on it. Over the years I have noticed that when he has a crush on another girl they are quite a bit younger than him. One was 12 when he was 30 (obviously he never acted on it and I don't think he knew she was under 18 at first…) and more recently I found out about a crush he has on a 14 year old that I know and he is now 32.

I am concerned because I worry that as he gets older he is going to continue preferring girls in their early teens and he will become a massive player. I am about 20ish younger than him and he has always been proud of that. Is this normal or should I tell my dadd

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  • Couman
    9 years ago

    Wow, candy, that's kind of stereotypical, isn't it?

    Anyway, I don't think he's going to stop being attracted to early teens. But on the other hand he was responsible about before, kind of, so maybe it'll be OK. Hard to say. If you're worried that he'll lose interest in you as you get older... I don't think that's necessarily true, but obviously it's possible.

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  • Soilworker2099
    9 years ago

    It is normal he likes younger girls sure, but what age is too young... That's where the issue comes up...

    Sure girls now you see them at 13 or whatever having push up bras and wearing the yoga pants to shape their bodies and they will a lot of the time have bodies of young women in the teenage years AND they a lot of the time have not a single thing "wrong" with their bodies they look perfect, and guys will be attracted to them... Assuming they dont look like kids... Now if he is Into these girls because they look like a child then you have an issue...

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  • dom180
    9 years ago

    Yes, you should tell you dad.

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  • Gspyder
    9 years ago

    First, the candy thing is creepy and a bit concerning. Second, he knew that twelve year old wasn't 18, don't let him fool you. Third, him pursuing girls your age is abnormal. He should be more interested in people his age who have more in common with him, a thirteen year old is just not ready for or even looking for the same kind of relationship as someone his age- he should be considering what he wants in a spouse by now.

    Lastly, he may not mean anything wrong by it, but the fact that he hasn't become aware by now and stopped pursuing young girls probably means he won't, and that will get him in trouble eventually.

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  • Mersaphe
    9 years ago

    It's normal for men to prefer females younger than themselves, but of course from a legal point of view a man should not act on his attraction to girls under the age of consent (usually 18)

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  • jeremybrown50k
    9 years ago

    Its normal, age doesn't matter in true love. Life is short, dont waste your time thinking crap and be with the man you love regardless of age...

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Disturbing, I bet he owns a van, huh?

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