Is it normal for my boyfriend to goad me into a physical fight?

So I have been with my fiance for six months. we live together, and we share all the bills. We have always had a very electric relationship, always talking, connecting, etc. But he doesn't like me doing anything on my own. i mean anything. i have zero friends because i moved to this town shortly before meeting him, i have no family close by and even if i say i want to go for a walk, he wants to come with me. Every time. I also had a ruptured cyst recently and it was the night before his birthday and he wanted to go out, so he sat around and bugged me until i drug myself out of bed to go with him. this last Wednesday i came home from work and he held me with one hand (bruising my shoulder) and punched me in the chest. when i asked him why he said it was because he was bored and antsie. It knocked the wind out of me. Then the next night i came home and was eating on the end of the bed and he kicked me in the back. i told him i didnt like when he did things like that and he started calling me a pussy and saying that he was sorry i was so weak. so in my own defense i punched him, hard. then he started kicking, hitting and putting me in wrestling holds and being very rough, so i was defending myself and fighting back. afterwards he said "that was so awesome" and said i wasn't weak anymore. Is this abuse? is this normal?