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So, I slept over my boyfriend's house a few days ago. I fell asleep at about 12am and he come to bed at about 3am. I woke up at about 3am whilst he was fingering me.
I'm not mad or anything, I'm just wondering if it's normal.
We have had sex and stuff before so it's not like this was the first time we have done anything sexual.
It's not normal. I'm a guy, and I wouldnt even dare doing this to my girlfriend, it;s basically the same as rape, because she CAN'T say no.
It is sexual assault if you are not comfortable with what he is doing. If you are okay with getting penetrated in your sleep by him, each to his own. Either way, he should be seeking some type of prior consent before doing something like that for the first time. What if he has a sickness and is just taking advantage of you?
If u got turned on by it and your okay with it then go with it. But talk to him about it if it bothers you.
You need to decide whether this is a "normal" sexual relationship for you. Obviously, he enjoyed it, but you don't have to submit to it. My wife found it stimulating to wake up to discover I was fooling around with her.
If you're okay with it then it's okay I guess, let him know now if you don't want him doing it though, if you tell him you don't want him to do it and he does it anyway that's a form of rape. (technically he didn't get your permission the first time either, but if you're 100% okay with it there's no reason to worry)