Is it normal for my boyfriend to enjoy my over-eating?

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Are guys who have a feeder fetish normal? (And I apologize for this lengthy post)

I am a 21 year old college kid, 5'7" with a weight that has held steady between 138-145 lbs since age 15. So I am not super skinny, but I am definitely normal and enjoy an active lifestyle.

I met my current boyfriend 3 years ago at a party through a mutual friend, and we immediately hit it off. He is very considerate, smart, faithful, and now has a good, steady job. We only started having sex about a year ago (I know, I move slow), but now we live together and have sex regularly. Recently, however, a preference has surfaced which I find odd and am not sure how to deal with it.

He is really turned on by me eating, especially over-eating. We both are very active and do not have eating disorders, but on super hectic days sometimes I will go all day without eating and then go crazy at dinner. This seems to really arouse him, and he annoys me by encouraging me to over-eat past the point of satiation. He recently admitted that he really enjoys it when girls eat so much that they are stuffed, bellies distended, etc., and wondered if I would engage in this role play with him.

Now I am admittedly pretty conservative, but hell, a little sex play is fun with a partner you feel comfortable with. I find this odd, but I would be willing to try it. The problem stems from the weight gain issue, which I would not be ok with. My question is, is this normal behavior for a guy who likes skinny chicks, or is he secretly trying to fatten me up? Fat admirers, feederism, and people who enjoy being fed and gaining weight is fine, but I like my body the way it is, and do not want to be fed to a larger size.

So to sum up, is it normal for a person to engage in sort of "dominatrix stuffing" without liking fat chicks, or does feeding and weight gain go hand-in-hand? Is he normal?

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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    You know, that was pretty much a masterclass in how to write an IIN post. Well-written, with relevant background information, focussed, an explanation of your feelings and a genuine question. I wish they were all like that.

    Before I answer your question, I should say that I haven't come across any feeders in my real life so this answer doesn't come with any experience attached.

    What I would say is that it's largely irrelevant what other feeders do or want and you shouldn't use this to form an opinion of what your boyfriend wants. Perhaps he does want you to gain weight, perhaps not. It's specific to him, though. Because of that, he's the only person who can tell you for sure.

    I picked up on the word "secretly". It sounds like maybe you have suspicions he'd want you to do something you don't want to do. I guess at some point you're going to have to have a frank talk with him about these suspicions, about how you see your body (and its future) and about how he sees it.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    10 years ago

    Maybe he has a scat fetish lol

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  • Maki_P
    10 years ago

    I wouldn't call it abnormal, everybody has their urges; but if you think he wants to make you fat, and you don't want to then it's not cool

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  • lol1055
    10 years ago

    yes of course, many of my girlfriends loved my overeating and joined in as well, its so fun!

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    11 years ago

    Honestly I'm 5ft1 and a year or so ago I was 45 pounds and barely looked overweight. Sooo I don't think you have anything to worry about as far as that goes, I don't feel like actually referencing those stupid charts (don't really agree with them a lot of the time) but that sounds like a healthy weight for your height.

    Anyway, that's not something I've ever been into, but if your man likes it and you don't mind it, why not? There are many stranger fetishes in the world, as long as you don't start doing it over time and actually becoming unhealthy with your diet.

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