Is it normal for my boyfriend to call me fat when i'm not?

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Before you read this, no, he is not abusive towards me. He's a very loyal, trustworthy, caring guy.

Ever since we got together (a year ago), he has always called me fat. It hasn't really bothered me. I think he started calling me fat because I used to eat a lot, I actually called myself fat, and I'm not nearly as strong as him (he used to power lift 230 pounds and is a little surprised that I can barely pick up 25 pounds, or perhaps he's just joking).

I have always found it cute when he calls me fat. When he calls me fat, I don't imagine myself as a fat person, but just as my normal self, or as an obese guinea pig, or whatever animal we may be talking about. We like to send pictures of animals to each other (I actually got him to like guinea pigs, rats, hedgehogs, etc.), and one of the animals is fat and the other one is normal size. Usually, they're exaggerated sizes of us.

I'm 5'4" and weigh 120 pounds but I have been gaining some weight lately (not purposely), and he's also 5'4" and weighs about 130-135 pounds. So really, we're both pretty normal weight, although my cousin has said that I look anorexic, but I eat normally.

So, what do you think? Is it normal for him to call me fat when I'm not?

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  • (s)aint
    9 years ago

    If you don't take this as a joke, tell him to stop with it.

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  • bleach_baby
    9 years ago

    Sounds to me like it's something cute he's doing because you're obviously not fat.

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  • pleasedtomeetyou
    9 years ago

    Haha 5'4 and 120 is small and only 10 pounds away from being underweight. He must be teasing you or this is a troll post.

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  • LornaMae
    9 years ago

    You should start calling him tall to see how it goes.

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  • pixie_dust
    9 years ago

    he's picking away at your self esteem little by little. it's psychology. don't allow any man to damage your self esteem.. in the process when men (typically men) do this, while the self esteem goes down, in the process the girl is obsessed with the man and can't live without him. don't be a statistic.

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    • Shily666
      9 years ago

      Actually, he's not doing anything to my self esteem. He's just joking around and we both find it cute. There's nothing wrong or abusive about what we're doing.

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      • pixie_dust
        9 years ago

        well, this sort of thing can happen w/o you realizing it. just be aware of that.

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  • Something_Recognizable.
    9 years ago

    Everybody is fat no matter how much you weigh.

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  • Goodvibrations
    9 years ago

    It's not your average pet name/ compliment and I think it might upset the fat/fatter women around you, but if you like it who am I to comment? I would've thought it would be cuter if he called you fluffy, pudgy, cushiony, curvy they can mean fat and just sound a bit nicer and more affectionate xx but that's just me. :)

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  • handsignals
    9 years ago

    You got him to like rats?

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    • Shily666
      9 years ago

      Well, I'm a rodent person, and when I introduced him to my favourite rodent(guinea pigs), he started to like them too. He even started to like rats and hamsters and hedgehogs and other small animals.

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