Is it normal for my boyfriend to be this oblivious?
My boyfriend of almost 2 years seems to not care about anything around him. He's very forgetful as in forgetting anniversaries and my birthday (which is super easy since it's ON a holiday!) and things like that.
We were meeting at the movie theater by his house and he asked if he should come to my house first but I texted back saying "no I'm taking a shower then heading to the movies since it starts in 30 minutes." I text again in 25 minutes saying "I'm pulling in, where are you?" He calls saying he's heading out and calls again 20 minutes later saying he's at my house...HOW?!
I say I'm going to the doctors for a pretty big procedure in which he will forget to ask about for days, weeks or forever.
Lately all I want to do is point out certain things and hope they'll change or get fixed. (Which I don't think is something normal to feel?)
He often doesn't care about updating me on things. Example: He says "let's meet up and make waffles at my house," I rush home to bring waffle maker and call him only to find out he already ate -__-
He doesn't seem as clean as I would like to be but I admit I have OCD so I need to wash my hands before I touch anything with food or not mix raw meats with anything or leave dishes for days. But there's things like those that tend to happen sometimes.
He recently moved into a new place for the week and it's filled with roaches which I HATE but when I act like a little girl when I see them, he doesn't really care to kill them for me (or pay me too much attention) which is typically what everyone else does for me.
He makes promises of quitting smoking and going back to college and certain things only to just subtly go back on them.
I love my boyfriend and I wouldn't want to trade him for anyone but I'm starting to hang out with him a lot lately and I'm beginning to realize we are very different in the way we handle things or do things. Are these things normal for a guy and I'm just overthinking my OCD or should I be concerned?
I see my parents happy and there are certain things (such as responsibility for paying bills, being on top of things and fixing little things around the house) I appreciate in my dad that I don't see my boyfriend having and it scares me. Is this normal or should I be worried? Can responsibility and un-oblivion be taught and come with time even in his 20's? Or is it not fair to my boyfriend that I be in a relationship hoping to change him?
Sorry it's so long! Comments & advice are greatly appreciated. Thanks for reading :)
You're being a high-maintenance little princess - he's fine, you arent | 1 | |
RUN girl, run! - this ain't normal | 27 | |
This is totally normal - all guys are pretty much like this | 0 | |
These things come with time - be patient with him | 4 |