Is it normal for my boyfriend to be like this?
I will try to give both sides as much as possible. I have been dating my boyfriend on and off since jr high, 6 years. We have gone through so much throughout those years, breaking up with each other and such - mostly the things we did in between dating, like being with other people. He was always kind of an a$$hole and pretty jealous, but it was nothing I couldn't deal with. We've always truly loved each other. And we have never cheated on each other.
Last year when we got back together I became pregnant and wasn't sure if he was the father. I was completely honest with him about everything, and the odds seemed to be against him being the father. The other guy was also of a different race. My bf stayed with me until I started to show and just quit calling me one day, after he gave me the impression he wouldn't do that (I asked him many times if he was going to stop seeing me when i got big and gave him plenty opportunity to call it quits). He called me occasionally to check on me and partied a lot to deal with everything I guess. I started talking more to the other guy (who meant very little to me), deciding I should at least try to be with who I thought was the father...
When I had the baby she did not look biracial, but I had many conniving people who were close to me telling me she was so I was very confused. I never called my bf. I put her pictures on myspace and facebook hoping he'd see them somehow and I waited for him to call. He had no doubt she was his when he called 3 months after her birth and I sent him her picture. I moved in with him the following month.
Now he is an asshole to me almost all the time. He gripes at me for going to university, where I might talk to guys in my classes. I can't tell him things I hear people say or conversations that involve a guy (even a teacher sometimes)lest he get jealous. He accuses me of wanting his brother, who lives with us. One time I stayed up all night studying and he swore I wanted him to go to sleep so i could meet up with his brother. If I have to stay late for a class (even only 15 minutes)he gets mad at me and ignores me when i get home. He never wants to help me with our daughter when im trying to do homework and make deadlines until i bitch him out. he does have back and neck pain all the time, but even when he has pain killers its no different. He also watches her all day while im at school (with his granny's help usually).
Does he have a right to treat me this way? What can I do? IIN?