Is it normal for my boyfriend to be flirting with other girls
I don't have many people to talk to this about, so I thought I would post my story on here and ask for an outside perspective.
I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, when we first met it was absolutely amazing. Like A dream. I could feel his amazing love every second I was with him. I didn't care about anyone else because I felt I had found the most amazing person. My dream guy. He felt the same way, was head over heels for me. Literally thought I was the most beautiful girl on earth. Every night when he thought I was sleeping he would whisper in my ear the things he loved about me, and how special I was to him. We were together 24/7 and couldn't keep our hands off of each other. He would always call me his future wife, and joke about getting engaged and our future.
We moved in together after a couple months. It was amazing. I loved making him all his meals, and loved seeing his shoes when I got home.. just knowing he was there. I felt so safe and loved, and literally high off of happiness.
Eventually he stopped being interested in sex (where-as before we would be having sex multiple times a day, and he was always turned on) I felt worried that he was losing interest, but I accepted he didn't feel like sex anymore.. and just went on thinking our love was enough.
We went through some hard times (I had some OCD issues. and he was having a hard time with money) But I thought we would get through.
Things got better. but then I started to get paranoid he was cheating on me (felt like he wasn't as interested and loving with me).. fast forward to now. My friend who works with him asked me if I was still with him, I said yes, but things weren't feeling secure like they used to. she then told me she thought he wasn't behaving like a good boyfriend. She said he was flirting with multiple girls at work, and even tried to hold her hand kind of joking around.. she said he would act like he didn't have a girlfriend. I really trust this girl.. and she is his friends girlfriend anyways. I'll also mention he's a lot older than me, He's at the age that most want to settle down and have kids
he also doesn't do boyfriend things anymore. He didn't even get me anything for valentines day, and never said happy valentines day. He went out to lunch with his friend on valentines day and then didn't even take me out or say anything. (not that I need material things, I just thought it would be kind of nice if he even said something) he never holds my hand anymore, and doesn't even introduce me as his gf he'll just say "this is ____" instead of this is my GF ___.
I am literally the perfect gf. I am super sweet to him, buy him stuff, make all his meals gourmet and nutritious, clean everything for him, very loyal to him, etc.. Everyone always says I'm a wonderful GF and he's very lucky,
anyways, I'm having a hard time just dumping him because he is a big part of my life.. but I really want him to only want to be with me, and no other girls. I thought I was paranoid before but after my friend told me how he's acting, I feel it was my intuition all along. he is the most intelligent person I know.. very gifted and special. I don't want to make a mistake and end it for good. But I also don't know why he would want to be with other people?
anyways, sorry for the long story. Kind of just wanted to write this down anyways to get my thoughts straight.
Thanks for any advice