Is it normal for my boyfriend to always ask me "are you ok?"

:boyfriend: are you ok?

:uglydoll: nah sumthins buggin me

:boyfriend: what is it?

:uglydoll: you keep asking me if im ok

:boyfriend: well are you?

:uglydoll: i was

:boyfriend: and now your not?

:uglydoll: and now im not...

:boyfriend: im sorry babe i dont mean to hammer on like that i know it bugs u im sorry

:uglydoll: ok babe i forgive you

:boyfriend: buuuuuut you ARE ok?

Stick a post-it note on your forehead with the words "I'm okay" written on it. Only remove it at times when you are not okay.

I know exactly how you feel, join the club. My girlfriend asks this everyday multiple times a day. Just say the same thing everytime and they get sick of it, it will stop eventually. Good luck

It sounds like he is just a very sensitive person, and takes it personally when it seems as though the tiniest thing isn't quite right (a sigh, look, vocal inflection).

It also sounds like you've become comfortable enough with him to not "put on a face." Everything is perfectly fine, and you have no problem letting out a sigh because you're tired or a straight face because you're relaxed. Perhaps he hasn't reached that point yet and he is trying to impress you?

I say this because my boyfriend used to do that all the time when we started out. It annoyed the crap out of me because everything was great. I couldnt understand why he was even asking. It turned out he was hypersensitive to those things because his ex girlfriend always got on him for not paying attention or figuring out when she was upset about something.

Once I told him that I would come to him and tell him when I was upset about something, he backed off. It took a while, but once I started coming to him and telling him when and what i was upset about - he stopped.

Oh Yeah! I was wondering everyone! Do you think he has something wrong with him and he is projecting? Or thinks there should be something wrong? See? Now he has me doing it!!! LOL...sigh-

He cares about you and is worried about you. It's normal, but very understandable why it's getting on your nerves. My mother likes to grill me on whether or not I'm depressed, because I love to sleep so much. It's so irritating! Just because a person has a close relationship with their bed doesn't mean that there's something wrong with them!

Chill he jus cares about you. My gf does it to me to but maybe not as much. Love can be annoying, but then again they jus care...no harm in that rite

Very annoying but I agree it's a nervous thing. I've done it and said sorry alot when someone else hurts me. I don't anymore though but it is really annoying!

Are you OK?

My partner does this, it is really grating. Some times she will ask me twice in the space of a five minute spell. If I start reading something it's like she gets jealous of something else getting my attention. And yet, it's hunky dory for her to sit enraptured by her mobile phone, reading Facebook for what seems like hours on end. I think she's just bored but by christ it's so annoying!

Do your self a favor. The next time your BF/Fiance/Husband/significant other asks, "Are you ok"? or "What's wrong": Tell him!

A simple passive, "I'm fine" or "nothing" only adds to it. Would you believe your BF is you asked him the same question & he said, "I'm fine" or "Nothing" I seriously doubt it. Even if nothing is wrong, say something more communicative, "You won't believe what happened today at work, this asshole boss of mine, blahblahblah or "I was thinking about a dream I had 2 nights ago". or "I was wondering if I should open a new checking account ANYTHING!!! Your partner is simply trying to connect with you.

Run Run as fast as you can from this guy! He is insecure and it wont change. I have been married to my husband for 12 years and he has done this from day one. I question myself daily as to why I am still in this relationship because it is not healthy!

That's what I have been trying to say...The badgering until I can't take it an then yell at me for crying. I have since left him. Thanks everyone for your input ...even you dickface, you made my resolve even stonger to stay away from a man that has controlled and abused me and my children for almost 20 years...

Omg my dad says this to me like 4 times a day wen I go see him on the holidays

Mine doesn't make me cry or yell at me, but he does this all the time...My boyfriend actually makes me believe that there is something wrong, and I'm stuck questioning myself... Turns out, the reason he asks that all the time is because he thinks I'm cheating but didn't want to come out and say it... That might be your guy's problem.

He's insecure. It would do him good to see a therapist. If he's willing to work on it, and you're willing to work with him, that's great. Otherwise, ditch him. As say this as a guy who used to be just like him.

I'm probably going to get some haters for this, but I do that to my boyfriend once in a while lol It's cause he has issues talking about how he feels. He never tell me whats wrong, he prefers to get distracted and forget it, so I never have a chance to help him out, or improve if it's my fault. Wish he'd just damn well tell me what's up. I've started doing this instead of harping, mayeb get your boyfriend to agree to this. I say "Are you ok?" He says "yes." I say ok, i'm going to ask one more time, and if you say no then I'll beleive you okay? "You promise your okay?" That way if he says yes, It's not my fault if there is something wrong that he wants to talk about, it's in his field to talk about it. Aka can't say I didn't try lol I dunno, I just worry about him and want him to be happy, i'm sure your guy has pure intentions to

Some people are hardwired to do that. I do it sometimes, but I hate it when other people do it lol

Start annoying him by telling him you are ok. My wife ask me every 5 minutes "why you mad", I know its annoying but it can also be fun to irritate them back. Keep telling him your ok, do it like every 2 mins until he gets the point.

I understand exactly what you are saying. He even said this same thing. However, There is nothing wrong with me being able to determine if there is "Something wrong" with me. He nitpicks everything. Movements, breathing. I don't think you realize the constant of it. And I think it is a little abusive to hammer at someone just because you think there is something wrong with them, to the point where I am shaking and a nervous wreck. It is like he wants something to be wrong with me so he pushes me until there is. Also OF COURSE THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG NOW....Jesus..

He sounds like a giant pussy to me. Do you really want to keep dating a giant pussy like him? Punch him in the nuts the next time he asks you.

Thanks Everyone! You really made me feel better.

he cares, its just a nervous thing, i have a friend who says sorry alot, no big deal

The next time your boyfriend asks if you're okay, smile and try one of the following:
1) No, I'm not Old Kinderhook!
2) No, I'm way over your head!
3) I'm okay with that! Are you?
4) I'm perfect!
5) No, I'm only human!
6) No, I'm not an orgy!
7) Do you want me to fly like corks and sparks upward?
8) If you want to fuck me, you better stop treating me like your personal lube-job!
9) So I'm a bar of soap now, am I?
10) I AM NOT, YES INDEED!!!

okay. I do this to my friend. a girl who I really like. the reason I do this is mostly because she'd be quite or act little different from she normally does. I really do care about her so I just want to make sure she's alright. I only ask her once in a while thou. I believe when someone tells me they're alright, they either don't want to tell me or nothing's really wrong. I guess I should really change this after reading this thou

My dad does this to me. It drives me insane.

Meh. Cry me a river.

I do this to my gf all the time and she has no problem with it. You sound like some whiny bitch. Get over it.