Is it normal for my boyfriend and i to have nothing to talk about?

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 4 months. We get along well and are really close. Unfortunately he lives a little further away than what is convenient so we don't see each other face to face more than maybe once a week. When we are together the conversation flows smoothly and we can talk for hours but when we're apart and on the phone it gets harder to make conversation. Sometimes it flows like normal but mostly we're struggling to find things to talk about. Is it normal?

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Based on 79 votes (56 yes)
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  • Personally, I hate talking on the telephone for longer than two minutes. I prefer to meet up with the person and talk to them then.

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  • q25t

    If it doesn't get better, you might try Skype. The face to face part should help some at least.

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  • PapzBSlim

    Most of us men do not have much to say over the phone. Do not get annoyed with not having anything to say the whole time you on the phone either. Sometimes just being on the phone with a loved one, even if there is not an exchange of words the whole time, is soothing. I am lucky that my girl can literally talk for hours and I have just a few phrases here and there that I add. Lol I rather her do all the talking because what I say I feel is unnecessary to the conversation. She thinks she talks too much but I enjoy her voice and she is quite funny. If you are a girl, talk about anything, ANYTHING. I listen to my girl talk about her hair and nails all the way down to what she thinks she ran over driving or what she ate or wants to eat lol.

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  • myownopinions

    That's normal. If you really need something to fill up the phone silence, then just say the first thing that pops into your head and start talking about that.

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  • joybird

    Most men think if you phone them that you have a reason, or at the very least something to say. If I were you, I'd wait until that time. I never phone my husband unless I want him to do something, or tell him something really funny that has happened. I would never call to moan about something he can't fix - men hate that!!

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  • AssBurgers

    This is normal. I hate talking on the phone =/

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  • Dot123

    Start talking about the big city toilet. Rings around the toilet. Even burnt on cheese wont stick.

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  • Aleks85

    Totally normal, which is why long distance relationships almost never work.

    There are things, and activities you can do in person that create conversation, and often activities replace talking completely, including touching. On the phone conversation is the only avenue for connecting therefore you eventually run out of things to say.

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  • BlackDays

    Normal. Maybe you've said all you can say about what's been going on since you last saw each other. If you talk on the phone every day while your apart, there won't be much to talk about. Unless you have super exciting lives where crazy shit happens constantly.

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  • flutterhigh

    Phone conversations are naturally much more difficult to conduct smoothly. You're left without the facial/body signaling of face-to-face conversation, but also without the ability to take your time to respond, as with email/text/Facebook. Most people I know aren't too fond of phone conversations; I know I prefer speaking in person or even through text or email.

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  • BurnaBaby27

    There's a conversation starter. Ask him if he's noticed that the two of you talk a lot in person but don't have a lot to talk about on the phone. "Isn't that weird?", you both laugh a little, "Yeah it is, I've noticed that too. Why do you think that happens?"........and the conversation should flow.

    If it does cease at any point you can always say, "It happened again" , have a laugh, and start a new conversation.

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    • flutterhigh

      Nah. Nothing kills a conversation faster than discussing the conversation itself, because then it becomes self-reliant. There's no other topic to move on to. Maybe it works for you, but every experience I've had with it has been terribly awkward.

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      • poo69

        agree

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      • BurnaBaby27

        I've never been in that type of situation. I was just giving the OP some suggestions.
        I would think that if two people that are together can't be silly and joke about how lame their conversation is, maybe they shouldn't be together to begin with.

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