Is it normal for my boyfriend and i (gay couple) to physically fight?

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I know if a straight couple gets into a physical altercation it's all police sirens and lawsuits, like if a guy hits his girlfriend.
But if two guys fight it's basically just how men are.
So if my boyfriend and I fight, would that be under relationship abuse or just two dudes fighting it out?
My boyfriend is a hothead and so am I, there's usually a lot of shoving or chest poking when we really get on each others nerves, but the other day, and a few other times, he threw a punch, and this time breaking my cheek bone. Would that register like how two guys fight, or how a couple fights? We definitely aren't physically equal. He's 6 foot 7 and very built and I'm 6 foot 1 and more athletic than muscular. We've dated for 2 years and room together in college.

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  • Couman
    7 years ago

    Domestic violence can happen in any type of relationship, and it's not exactly rare. But that doesn't make it acceptable. I would advise you to leave, but I know that's not always easy, for multiple reasons. But don't fool yourself into thinking it's OK because you're both men, it's not.

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  • _Mehhhh_
    7 years ago

    It's definitely a toxic relationship and you two don't need to be together. It'll likely escalate.

    It's not normal for any couple, being gay has nothing to do with it.

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    Nothing to do with being gay, but a couple who can't communicate or deal with conflict without physical violence is definitely not healthy. You both need to go to Anger Management before someone is seriously hurt or killed.

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  • Rusty-Rider
    7 years ago

    Get some dueling pistols.
    That will even the competition to skill rather than pure physical prowess.
    You could load the rounds with salt so you don't kill each other too quickly and then blast away!
    You should sell tickets to the fight to pay for the medical bills that will ensue.

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    • DolphinAngel
      7 years ago

      I second this.

      Make sure not to wear clothes and invite me :3

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  • Reyenk
    4 years ago

    I find it very difficult to judge. If we think of relationships among men we can determine many instances where guys do fight. Brother fight, best friends fight. Hormonally boy will be boys. And somewhere down the road usually guys are able to let by gones be by gones. But, technically this is still forms of DV and should not be practiced. But, if you feel the relationship could recover from this very rare altercation then I would ask that you both tread carefully. Intensive soul searching and possible intensive counseling may help you both determine if the relationship should be continued or ended. In my opinion nothing is impossible. If you possibly take time apart and soul search deep and work to determine the underlying anger issues and reinvent oneself then comeback to the relationship and prove things will be different then do it, work it out. But, this would be alot of work. And this may be exhausting especially if your waiting on the next outburst of a brawl. Becareful. And I wish you two luck. Remember both parties need to agree.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    7 years ago

    Yes it is.

    You are trying to beat the gay out of each other.

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