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Is it normal for my bf to have naked pictures of girls he's slept with saved to his computer in a secret file? Also pictures another girl has sent him over the course of two years, some regular and some of her half naked?
I'd discuss it with him.
And tell him nicely you disagree with the practice, and explain why you feel this.
How he reacts to such a talk (provided you do so calmly, rationally, explaining yourself) will speak volumes about the guy.
Let's assume I had such pics on my PC, and "she" came to me about it, and said she was un comfortable with the idea.
I'd delete them. And I'd do so because of how much it would mean to her.
"But you shouldn't have to sell yourself out for another." - That's not the case, here. Relationships are give, take, lean, push. A delicate tango, of sorts, of compromise and more. I'd delete them, for her, for me, for us.
Yes it is normal. As much as it seems unfair- which basically it totally and completely is- it's still normal. You can ask him to delete them.. but I can't promise they aren't saved to his e-mail too. That's the thing though about men, they are so turned on by the sight of a naked woman that they find it basically innocent to look as long as they aren't actually doing. It's up to you and him to decided what to do about it- delete them, as long as he doesn't acquire more while you two are together, that's (to me in my relationship) what is more important. My boy friend had pictures of my best friends saved onto his computer among other girls he knew before me and as far as I know, they are gone. Mind you I don't know his e-mail password. But I am sure that he doesn't cheat on me- so to me, that is what is important. Looks like it is time for you to figure out what is alright and not okay for you and your man.