Is it normal for my bf to cheat on me like this?

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So my bf and i were having protected sex a while ago and everything was fine and dandy. recently i started feeling stomach pains and other pregnant related things. I bought a pregnancy test and sure enough, im pregnant (obviously the condom broke or had a tare or puncture or something). I went home to tell my bf and BAM! Cheating on me... In my own house! Then the slut and i found out he was dating both of us at the same time. Im not sure what to do, should i keep the baby?

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Parky_Parker

9 years ago

It's not normal for person to cheat on a person in any sort of way, no matter what the circumstance. Dump him. It's your choice whether you wanna raise that child alone or not.

Don't waste your time being mad at the girl. You can't expect strangers to respect you and not touch what you think is yours. No one stole your boyfriend, he whipped out his dick by choice.

You wanna get as far away from a "man" like that, especially if you are going to give birth to an innocent baby.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  It uber shitty because i want nothing to do with him and he wants to have normal parent custody with me. I told him that if i do keep the baby, he will never be able to see it...
  
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  - Parky_Parker
    
    9 years ago | pl
    
    If he fights hard for custody, it'll be difficult to cut him out of your child's life completely. You'd have to present a valid reason to be able to legally prevent him from seeing your child altogether.
    
    It's definitely a tough situation. This baby will have parents that were broken up before he/she was even born. If you can't be civil with each other for the next 20 years while relaying the child back and forth from one home to another, consider abortion.
    
    THE BIG QUESTION IS:
    If you bring a child into this world, will you both be able to put that human being's needs in front your own?
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      9 years ago
      
      I don't want to neglect letting this child see his/ her father but i also dont want to let this guy with messed up morales help raise the baby either... Im beyond the partying years so my needs are met, i just dont think i could raise a kid by myself
      
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      - Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
        
        9 years ago
        
        you don't have to let him help raise the child, even if he has visitation rights.
        
        but if you don't think you can raise a chid alone there's always adoption or agencies that will help you care for the child.
        
        but sadly "whether or not i can raise a child" is something more people should consider before having unprotected sex.... but aren't thinking about.
        
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  - Riddler
    
    9 years ago
    
    Normal yes, common Yes, Is it right? No its never right! Your BF is a bastard and probably going to be a deadbeat dad too.
    
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Fall_leaves

9 years ago

What a shitty situation if this really happened. Ultimately it's your decision whether or not you keep the baby. I wouldn't forgive him or stay with him though, especially not now that you're pregnant. You don't need someone in your life that could play you like that.

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thegypsysailor

9 years ago

Why would you keep the baby? It sounds as though you are now single; good on you, throw the bum out. Are you prepared and financially capable of committing yourself to 18 years of raising this child alone? You certainly can't count on this guy for support, on anyone marrying you when you have a kid already, or even government support (that seems to be drying up, especially if you are a white American citizen). Think long and hard on this one; 18 years is a long, long time.

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Robert_Grant

9 years ago

First and foremost, cheating is never acceptable in any format, whether verbal or physical. And from the sound s of this is was physical.
As for the baby; you have to dig deep and be true to yourself. Ask yourself the following questions:
1. Am I ready to be a mother?
2. I am ready and willing to make the sacrifices necessary to be a proper parent?
3. If I elect to have an abortion, am I mentally and emotionally able to deal with it?
4. If I elect to have the baby and put it up for adoption, am I prepared for the long term events that may haunt me for doing so?
5. If I keep this baby and I dedicated and committed enough to be able to raise this baby as a single parent if need be?
These are just some baseline questions to ask yourself. I'm a man and I believe the situation you are facing is one of the toughest a woman should ever have to face. However, you are in this position and the only person that can give you an honest and sincere answer is yourself.

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- Joemama82
  
  9 years ago
  
  What you should also think about is, lets say 20 yrs down the road you have another child (assuming you choose/chose to abort). Will you be able to just "forget" about your first "would-be" born child? And if you think you could handle that, do you think it would adversely affect your new baby boy/girl?
  
  KEEP IN MIND: either way you WILL get through this!
  
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RoseIsabella

9 years ago

Looks like you have some really big decisions to make, but the easiest one should be to dump this dirt bag.

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bmsa

9 years ago

Keeping the baby is your own preference. Don't let anyone here or anywhere tell you your right against keeping it or not. Some may think its ok some may think it's not, but in the end. It's yours, abortion is legal, and the decision is ultimately yours.

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LadyOfDecay♡

9 years ago

And people say I'm the unreasonable one for getting annoyed at women who don't use hormonal birth control...

This is exactly why I want to punch everyone in the face who says hormonal BC is bad for you and condoms are an appropriate alternative. Douchebags! This is the exact reason why I think it should be enforced by the law, that women of reproductive age use hormonal birth control.

I really don't think you should keep this child, because judging by the fact that you weren't smart enough to properly protect yourself from pregnancy, I'm guessing you wouldn't be emotionally equipped to handle raising a child.

Don't make this child's life hell because you and your boyfriend were irresponsible, please. There are too many kids livingon welfare or living in poverty and just because you're able to get pregnant, doesn't mean you should have the right to screw up another person's life.

Also, why would you want to be tied to someone as horrible as your ex? He has no respect for you, and will not respect your child or your needs as his child's mother. Give the baby to a mature married couple who can't have kids, they will sure appreciate it and give the kid a better life than you ever could.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  You have a valid point... I would rather abort it than give it to someone else though. The place that i grew up in is kinda known for having sick pedophile's weaseling their way into adopting children and or fostering children... I dont trust the system. And i also dont want this baby to grow up somewhere hating me because it thinks i was incapable of taking care of it/ didnt love it
  
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[Old Memory]

9 years ago

My honest opinion? No, don't keep the kid. We have enough kids raised in these crappy situations. Don't keep the baby, dump the asshole, find someone that is more faithful, ensure the right measures are taken to ensure you don't fall pregnant again until you and your new partner are ready for one rather than just mistakingly make one, then live life merry.

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richmanjoe

9 years ago

Give the child up for adoption. There are stable couples out there that would love him/her and provide the loving childhood that you can't.

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[Old Memory]

9 years ago

Why'd you have to call her a slut?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  Because i knew her from high school and she was a slut
  
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  - Robert_Grant
    
    9 years ago
    
    I find you being a little judgmental here. Basically your calling her a "Slut" for her past actions. I know a girl from High School that could have easily been labeled a "Slut" due to the fact that she got around a lot. Now that she has matured, she has settled down, straightened out her life and is truly devoted to her husband. She has turned to religion and has become a very successful business woman. To place a label on someone is wrong in my opinion since people can change! I'm sure there's some things you've done in your past that you are not proud of and if people knew of your action they could then place a label on you; how would you like that?
    
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Syturio

9 years ago

yes keep the baby... XD ofc not

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(s)aint

9 years ago

I don't know how young you are, but the young mothers I have spoken with says that they do NOT regret their children BUT they wished that they had them at a later point in life.

You do not want to create a bond between you and this loser-guy.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  I just graduated college this year
  
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