Is it normal for my 38yr old husband to not want me,even tho im willin

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Okay, weve been together for 15yrs and married for 13. but don't understand why I have to initiate sex!! Hes a Man and MOST couples I know, the MEN always approach their wives. So why does he lie to me about masturbation when I tell him Every time I do it when Hes not around?! Why on our "Sex Night" would he say that hes Soo Tired, and then comes outta the shower, Without drying off yet, and hes outta breath?? Would that not be a sighn to me that he has been masterbating??? Signed Concerned WIFE, whos bout to "Bobbitt" his ass!!lol..really tho

Could he be over worked bc he works nights? 1
Mabe hes no longer interested in ME after 15yrs of marriage? 6
Does he perfer to masterbate over me? 1
Would YOU think hes cheating? 2
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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I also think your poll is unreasonable.

    Men lose their sex drive as they get older while women generally peak their sex drive around 40. A mans sex drive peak is in their teens and gradually goes downhill as they get older.
    When I was a teenager all I did was jack off and look at porn. Now I am 29 and already losing interest in sex to a point where I don't really care although I wouldn't say no if an attractive girl offered in most cases.

    It doesn't sound like he is cheating at all. He may be jacking off because it is easier to do because it is less work and he may feel that he isn't able to preform the way he used to and may even be embarrassed. You should talk to him about this and maybe he can see a doctor who specializes in this to help.

    This is a very common problem since men and women peak their sex drives at different times in life.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    10 years ago

    Considering the fact that you have a "sex night" I would say you need to go for spontaneous sex. Try it at a different time of day or in a different place. Maybe even try some role playing or costume play. Maybe he lies about masturbating because he feels bad about doing that instead of sex.

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  • thatchickyouhate
    10 years ago

    might just be lazy. he'd rather get the job done quickly without much physical effort than huff and puff on top of you for a while. it's a bummer but it happens. and what the heck is "sex night" besides a mood killer? if he's not even participating in the scheduled sex night, you guys need to have a serious conversation to get these issues figured out.

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  • quentari
    10 years ago

    okay first, your poll options make little sense.

    It COULD be that he's masturbating, but unless you 'catch' him then it's no guarantee. At 38 his sex drive will have dropped immensely, it's entirely possible that he honestly just doesn't feel like having sex. The "men always want sex" stereotype gets less true as they get older. If he's working nights that could easily have something to do with it.

    Talk to him, maybe offer to shower with him, but understand that in most marriages the sex drive will lower in one or both parties. It has little to do with his desire/love for you and more to do with age.

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    He might be bisexual and getting his sex from guys. Find out. Check his computer, follow him if you can.

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