Is it normal for men you just met to text pictures of their privates?
I am a single female. Almost every time I meet a guy under totally normal circumstances, sometimes with, and often without there being a "romantic" context, "chemistry" between us, flirting, or any leading on, as soon as they get my number (under "I'd love to get to know you better" G-rated attraction with hopes of something more maybe if we get along, maybe we can have coffee and talk more, etc. or under totally innocent circumstances), they text me something very sexual totally unbidden, and/or shortly afterward text a picture of their private parts, also not asked for, and in some cases, specifically requested to *not* be sent.
Do they think this is going to make girls come running? Do they think this is considered suave? Sometimes I was in a relationship when I'd meet a guy where my number was requested, and I'd make this clear if I had any feeling the guy was trying to hit on me, and also if they requested my number ("oh, that's fine, I just was interested in some other non-sexual aspect about what I found interesting about you that you mentioned"). That didn't make a difference at all - they still did it. It still happened. Some of them were married!
Even when it was a situation when I was single, AND there was some interest, AND we would get a little flirty, it never went past cutesy flirting, where it was hinted I might be attracted, and so maybe if he played his cards right we could talk, get to know each other better, and maybe meet up again for coffee, lunch, what have you. Never was it hinted at that the next move after getting my number should definitely be to jump to saying something completely inappropriate, disgustingly vulgar and sexually aggressive, and then send a "d*ck" picture, unasked for. Their comments weren't even complimentary or an attempt to be sexy or turn me on, but nasty, aggressive and vulgar.
Do guys to lose their minds once they get a girl's number? Do they think, "Oh, she must want the 'D'," and the best way to get it must be to say the sickest thing they can think of and attach a d*ck picture. I mean, what makes them think the first move after meeting face-to-face and being sweetly, innocently flirtatious, is to send a text that jumps straight to something like "so, do you do an*l or what? I love licking feet once a woman's put her toes up my..." and those are some very mild examples. I mean, we haven't even been on a date or kissed or anything - first base, second base, none of that.
Why do guys go from normal flirtation (if that) straight to texts of sexually aggressive messages followed by a pic of their private parts? Are they trying to "not waste time" or what? Does that even work, ever? I'd like to know what female responds to that kind of thing positively when they never gave indication or permission to be spoken to on that level. What woman sees a text and pic like that and thinks, "Ooh, how hot! I'm going to throw myself at this guy now. When we met and were chatting earlier today at the bookstore he said maybe we can go to drink some chai tea sometime, but then when he texted me this pic of his member and said he wants me to do things to him with slide whistles and Vaseline while we watch raccoon porn! Yay, I'm going to call my mom and tell her I think I've finally found Mr. Right, but first let me grab my referee costume, go right over and sex him up right now!" Seriously? Why do guys do this? Is it normal?