Is it normal for me to want to end a friendship because of this??

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A girl friend of mine who lives about 35 minutes north of me (I'm located in Boston) has been really annoying me for a couple of reasons...is it normal of me to want to just end the friendship? I do not feel like I gain anything from the friendship. I am not trying to be selfish, but I am always the one listening to her complain and bitch about everything under the sun (work, family, boyfriend, etc). I'm always the one to drive out to her place (and you know boston traffic...). Whenever we make plans to do something active like go shopping or go to the zoo, she says she's so lazy and asks if I want to just come over, eat and watch movies instead.
And, she never is available to hang out UNLESS her boyfriend is working, or out with his friends or something. They live together btw. It's like whenever he is home, she HAS to be with him and can't ever make a plan with me if it's during a time when he's not working.
Also, the only time she has been to my apartment was ONCE on a Friday, I had invited her to come hang out with me and my sister who was visiting. She was all excited, and asked me if I would also want to go pick up bud from our dealer who lives near me, since she needed some. I was like sure. Basically what happened that Friday was she came, I drove her to get weed, drove back, had one drink and she left. A few Fridays ago she friend to pull that on me again but I said I was busy.
This is a long thing to read, but please I need some advice! It is normal to want to just stop being friends with her?

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    There is nothing wrong with ending a friendship. Although I would speak with her first and see if you can come to some sort of resolution before ending it abruptly. I actually had a very similar situation and just talking to them sorted it all out.

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    • TheCockRoach
      8 years ago

      Speaking with her would mean driving 35 minutes out of his way to end a relationship. That's bad advise and would be very Mangina of him.

      Be Alpha about it and it's obvious shes a leech using her pussy to extract favours out of men. Unfortunately for her the OP has come to a devine revelation and deep down knows what to do

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      • [Old Memory]
        8 years ago

        I think you might be confused by the first sentence in the post where SHE says a girlfriend of mine. The op is a female and is speaking about a female friend.

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        • TheCockRoach
          8 years ago

          I know this sweetheart but she didn't specify this in her post but wants accurate info so we must assume.

          "a girlfriend of mine" Doesn't indicate OP is female as there are two chicks I'm banging right now, April and Amanda are a couple girlfriends of mine.

          I'm male.

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          • [Old Memory]
            8 years ago

            I understand the confusion.

            Congrats on April and Amanda though :)

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  • kradmelder
    8 years ago

    wtf bru. Are you a doormat? This is so one sided why do you bother? She is using you. And she has a cheating heart as well. Has she asked you for money yet? She even uses you as drug runner to take the risk

    Ditch the Bitch. But pomp her first. Get dressed right away and leave money to emphasise the point. Rather dump your load in her mouth so she cant make any claims later.

    like wtf, why do you tolerate this? Be a white man. Stand up. Your self respect will take a massive boost

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    • Jess11887
      8 years ago

      Okay I'm a female first of all....no I'm not a doormat which is why I can't tolerate this. I just wanted confirmation that I wasn't being selfish for wanting to end a friendship when she hasn't specifically done anything to hurt me, she just has these behaviors that make me not give a shit about her existence.
      This is a girl who I've been friends with for about 2 years...I think you are reading my post incorrectly....

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      • kradmelder
        8 years ago

        If you are female and she is female, you are still being used. You are certainly not selfish. No relationship can last, man woman, man man, woman woman when it is one sided and only one gives.

        2 years is not long. And it seems like 2 years too long. You say she is good hearted yet uses you like that? And to use you as a drug runner??

        Perhaps she is not good hearted, and you are not selfish. You are just waking up to the fact that any relationship must be give and take, with both putting in to the benefit of both. Yours is so one sided it is hardly worth calling a friendship. Ditch her if she even has a tantrum when you raise your concerns. do you think she wouldnt ditch you if her bf said you are now a bother?

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        • Jess11887
          8 years ago

          Thanks for all of these good points. A problem of mine is that I see the good in people and can overlook flaws, and she was there for me once when I had a difficult time a couple years ago. Even though she was there for me to talk to, I need to realize that her selfish qualities outweigh the good qualities I have seen in the past.

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          • RoseIsabella
            8 years ago

            If she tries to throw all the times she's been there for you in the past in your face I would advice you to reassure her that you are indeed grateful to her for the times she was there for you, but... Now her behavior leaves you feeling taken advantage of which simply won't do.

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  • Lorenza
    8 years ago

    I knew this.Once a real argument and she changed because I told her "you , who can hang out with friends without your boyfriend". It was among a long text and she answered me but nothing about that part and 1 or 2 week/s , she called me to hang out with her and another friend but no boyfriend and after her work , while she was like she leaves her work and speeds home to see her boyfriend. It is not you who are selfish but her , some people really change once they are in couple.

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    Have you talked to her directly about this stuff?

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    • Jess11887
      8 years ago

      That's my problem. I don't know how to...I'm really bad at confronting people when I know they are good-hearted deep down. I feel I would basically be saying "hey soo...everything about you...actually really annoys me"

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      • kradmelder
        8 years ago

        sooner or later in life you must confront. That or accept being used. It is you that has the good heart, not her

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      • RoseIsabella
        8 years ago

        How good hearted can someone be if they are so opportunistic? Friendship and conversation are two way streets. Sounds like you're doing all the work and she's just taking advantage.

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    • kradmelder
      8 years ago

      Talk? this creature is such a userous heifer the only purpose for her mouth is to dump your load then tell her to bugger off with her BS.

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      • RoseIsabella
        8 years ago

        Hey dude, I never said this ain't cause to flush the friendship down the proverbial toilet, but I'm curious if OP's breached the topic of this so called "friend" being a selfish user. Honestly, if it were me I would just quit taking this bitch's calls, and never call her back. I guess if I were in a curious and confrontational mood I'd confront her, but it would probably get ugly, cause I can be really caustic.

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        • Jess11887
          8 years ago

          That's exactly what I've been thinking of doing...she stop taking her calls and don't respond to her texts. That's already what do about 50% of the time with her haha.

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          • RoseIsabella
            8 years ago

            So then then you're half way there, girlfriend. Keep up the work!

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