Is it normal for me to not keep my father's last name? (only son)

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I was wondering if it was normal to keep my father's last name... this is because I am the only son so I might be the only person in the family to keep his name (from my immediate family anyways) because I have two sisters..

I DO NOT want to keep his name because I never talk to him ever, and my parents have been divorced since I was in the fifth grade.. I'm a young man (18) and attending a university now. I did ask my mom about the matter and she was very sad, I dont know why, it looked as if they hated each other but then again they might have loved each other for some time. I hate my father when I think about what he did to me personally and how even though I"m a smart guy and like to think I'm well behaved, my memories of him are more negative than ever being near positive...

And my biggest fear is growing up to become like him, that being said, I want to become someone (or take my wife's last name) so I do not have to represent him in the following future or generations

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    Take your mother's maiden name. You don't owe your deadbeat dad a damn thing.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    You have two issues here: the name and your fear of becoming like your father - you don't say why but I'm assuming violence?

    If you don't want to keep your surname, why not change it now? As to your sisters, they may not marry, they may have children and not marry or they may not take their husbands' surnames. You have no control over that, only over your own name.

    As to your fear, if you don't find yourself indulging in similar behaviour to your father it's unlikely you have anything to worry about: if not, seek professional help, eg anger management

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  • green_boogers
    8 years ago

    Yes, but you have his Y chromosome. Your great great great great grandfather had it too. Same name, same chromosome.

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  • Vile
    8 years ago

    Sounds like the opposite side of the same coin. Change your name legally but don't use your wife's last name that'd be very unmanly. imho

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    • Ellenna
      8 years ago

      Why unmanly? Is it unwomanly when women take the husband's name?

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      • rimjob
        8 years ago

        Without going in too deeply in the subject. Marriage is/was (before the fags hijacked it) was synonymous with procreation that's #1. #2 The man penetrates the women while the woman accepts his penis, the woman accepts the Mans last name. - Vile

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