Is it normal for me to have intense feelings over this older man?

There's more than one thing at play, here. The reason the situation is inappropriate isn't because he's older - it's because he's your teacher. Even if he was the same age as you, his role in your life is the problem. As your teacher, he has a duty of care and it is wrong from him to cross the line that you already have in your heart.

It's hard to know whether you're a minor - if you're in Year 12 now, you might be 18 - but he's still your teacher, and that won't change till you've finished school.

Another issue is biological. The human brain doesn't finish maturing until early- to mid-20s at soonest (though usually sooner for females than males). For this reason, you are likely to make decisions now that you won't when you're older. Both physical maturity and experience that can only come with age will change how you see things in the years to come, and it will become clearer as to why he has taken the position he has. It isn't that you are incapable of understanding - it's that you can't yet *relate* to it.

My husband is 13 years my senior, and we've been together well over a decade. Earlier on, everyone said that it wouldn't last and that there was something wrong with a man his age being interested in someone my age, but that just isn't true. So many factors come into play, and we are an excellent match. So don't think that it's because he's older. It's not.

As others have said, he might be married. Or perhaps another teacher has noticed how you feel towards him and given him the heads up - not because anything was going on, but to avoid the appearance of anything unethical. He may be worried about losing his job. Or perhaps he's simply worried about hurting you more deeply by inadvertently misleading you as to the nature of his feelings towards you. It's very difficult to know for certain, since we don't know him and haven't seen the situation firsthand.

Regardless, remember that although it hurts like hell now, it will pass. I, too, had a crush on a man much older than me around your age, and I thought my heart would break, but it didn't - and all these years later, we're still good friends. Just give it time, meet with more people and keep in touch. Maybe a few years from now the situation will have changed and he may tell you more about how he's been feeling in the present. Just remember that he has certain legal and ethical obligations as your teacher and the onus is on him to keep you at a certain distance. It doesn't mean he hates you - he's just being responsible, and frankly, it's a great thing that he isn't taking advantage of you.

Your feelings are your feelings and completely normal ..it sucks when are feelings dont jive with the current societal norms...in fact socital norms are what you should have discussed as they are a big part of sociology...and they are very different across societies in time...However you also sound like me and have a hard time expressing your feelings...and have doubt and confusion...maybe your more concerned about being rejected than the whole age thing

Turn legal age of consent in your state. Some states girls are more immature I guess so the age of consent is older, but let him know when you're legal age and if he wants to get together with you, enjoy!

Ok its normal if your a girl but if your a dude its kinda weird ither way if he is older than you it will never work out...unless hes secratly a nazy or a cathlic preist...either way its still ilegal...i suggest waiting until your atleast 18 and tell him...if you love him dont make him go to jail...at least not for being a pedifile!!!

If you are his high school pupil he would be violating a trust having a relationship with you but if you are 18 and no longer his student he and you are within the law. My wife is 12 yrs. younger and a pure stone foxy woman with a behind worth worship. Guys always asked me how I scored such a hot fire cracker of a wife. I don't tell them the truth, that she had had only 3 lovers before me and thought sex was overrated for she'd never experienced an orgasm until we made love and from that day she as been with me since and found there is such a thing as multiple orgasms.

i don't think it's in your own best interest to tell him how you feel.

sometimes, rarely though, a may/december relationship can work, but that in itself brings many hurdles that you may not have considered yet.

maybe you should consider experiencing college life with college boys first.

A similar thing happened to me. I never told my teacher how I felt, because my teacher was married.

Maybe your teacher is married, too. honestly, you have a good connection, and you may even love him, but it sounds unrealistic to have a relationship with someone that much older than you. Maybe you should think about what your real academic interests are, and don't try to impress people.

I know it's hard! Good luck!