Is it normal for me to have deep feelings for a girl i'm not dating?

Alright my story begins all the way back in the first grade. I had just moved to Oregon along with many others from my Dad's work back in England, and as My dad and many co-workers moved over at the same time to a completely new place, they all stuck together and became a social group and had parties and things like that. I met this girl named Rachel who was my age and in my class and my Dad's coworker's/friend's daughter. I started liking her but didnt do anything about it, and it was like that all the way until she moved away in 3rd grade. Then by 7th grade she moved back (but in a different school now) and of course I was interested immediately because of my previous interest and she had blossomed into a beautiful girl, but I could still barely talk to her and didn't see much of her at all for a few years, and didn't think much of her. Then high school started and our parent's parties started up again and by this point I started talking to her and she was very very cool and a lot like me and extremely gorgeous, and we became acquaintances at best because I still didn't have the nerve to initiate anything. I didn't think I had a chance and I pretty much moved on and focused on people at my own school. I am now a Junior in high school and I've had a girlfriend for over a year and a half named Ashley. We started off really well but the past few months we have fought a lot and I feel like she doesn't treat me as well as I treat her, and then a few months back there were a few parties in a row and Me and Rachel had deep conversations at each one, and texted a lot and I really started thinking about her again, and now its in a more deep way as well as just physical. I haven't seen her in a while and don't want to make a stupid mistake. Is this a normal situation? Should I dump Ashley and try and pursue a girl I don't even see that much? Any advice at all please!

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  • BirdyMojo

    You should never go out with a girl you don't like or love anymore, it is a waste of her time and yours... because while you are in that relationship you two could have already found someone far better to suit you both... now about the whole Rachel thing, don't get your hopes up for someone who you hardly ever see... but good luck to you :)))

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  • Ramit10

    I was in the same boat as you man I had a MAJOR crush on this girl since 3rd grade(now 12th) she was so pretty and funny and I was good friends with her and I was always scared to ask her out then her say no and then our friendship be ruined so one day I decided to move on and shortly after she started dating a guy who she loves I know have a gf of my own who I love but I always ask wonder what would happen if I did ask her out and I sometimes regret it. So I will say this you are still young go for it nothing bad can happen you have a long life a head of you so dont make the same mistake I did just go for broke and best of luck to you bro

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  • JFK63

    It wasn't fair, that's why I stopped texting her and stuff because I started thinking about her as more than a friend again, so I wouldn't consider myself a pig. Also the fighting and when I started getting feelings for the other girl didn't go hand in hand. Any way we broke up and it was mutual and we are still trying to be friends, its kind of one of those you don't really know what you have til its gone kind of things but I know its for the best.

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  • skullz95

    I think that its normal cuz I have the same prob

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  • JFK63

    Haha Luvs2fuk you are a 56 year old man savagely criticizing a teenager for girl trouble? Get a life man holy shit. And I don't see how liking a girl and then asking for advice on the subject is "stalking".

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  • Lady.Pam

    *aren't stupid

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  • Lady.Pam

    Stop the deep convos and texting shit, fucking pig, how is that fair to your girlfriend... If you're going to be shady like that you need to leave your current relationship first. That's probably why you two fight more, she can sense it we are stupid.

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  • JFK63

    It seems like that's what everyone says, but I've never dumped anybody before and its easier said than done, I must just be a coward!

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  • jsyk

    first if you are considering dumping ashley for any reason than she isnt the right one for you and you should dump her irregaurdless, second if you think you have a real connection with rachel, go for it, you only live once, and if you dont try this sounds like one of those things that you'll regret for the rest of your life. good luck!

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  • Luvz2fuk

    No its not normal cause she'll never love you back cause it seems you are stalking her if your llonely ass is going to write like 3 paragraphs about some random chick. you are going to die sad and lonely you retarded creepy virgin

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