Is it normal for me to have a lot of anxiety when my boyfriend leaves?

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Hey guys! So I just completed my freshman year of college. Throughout this year, I have had many downs however, meeting my current boyfriend was definitely the highlight of it all.We have been dating for seven months now. I have never met someone who has meant so much to me. He has literally been there through it all with me and has never left my side. I am dramatic, VERY emotional, and sometimes crazy and he is still here. Anyways we lived in the same dorm, slept together, and spent every waking moment together. This however creates a problem for me when he wants alone time or wants to go home for the weekend. I get very emotional and an awful feeling sweeps over me.Sometimes during the time away, I will get extreme anxiety and call him balling my eyes out. This causes conflict because he feels there is nothing he can do when he is away. It's hard because I feel like no one understands what I'm going through. For example my friends and family. Summer vacation is coming up and we are leaving school for about 3 months. I am FREAKING out. I definitely want to have a good summer but I don't want to constantly worry about what he is doing, or where he is. We have set up times to see each other each week, working around our schedules but I still have a lot of anxiety. Please help me to live my own life and not worry about him so much. I hate the anxiety and need ways to cope with it when I'm missing him when theres nothing I can do about it!

Thanks!!

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    Those are insecurities within yourself that you need to work on. I'm not saying it is a bad thing just no use in worrying about stuff that hasn't happened yet or that you are worried will happen. I know it's easier said than done but it can be accomplished. I use to be the same as well very emotional and dependent on others for comfort and support. You have to find that comfort within yourself.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    I don't think this is unusual.
    When I was doing deliveries, I stayed with my girl friend in Lauderdale when I was States side and for a few days before I was to leave, she became quite unpleasant. The rest of the time, before I had a departure date, she was the nicest gal you could ever hope to meet.
    It was almost as though she wanted us not to like each other when I was away. She knew she was doing it, but could not stop herself. Sadly, it did cause the relationship to fail.

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  • Nokiot9
    8 years ago

    Acute seperation anxiety it sounds like. Sweaty clammy palms? Adrenaline surging? Shaky hands? You need a mantra when it happens. A little thing you say to yourself, reminding you of how much he loves you and why you love him. You just need to calm down and stop being so clingy. Clingy girls are the WORST.

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    You're gonna chase him away, honey. I'm not trying to upset you; I'm just being real.

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  • regisphilbin
    8 years ago

    you sound clingy and overly attached. give him some space and understand that everyone needs a little personal time to themselves. it will be healthy for your relationship and you will feel better too.

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