Is it normal for me to hate my mom at this point in my life?

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a couple of months ago my parents informed me that they were getting a divorce and now in october 2010 it is finalized. 2 months ago i started to realize that my mom started texting every minute all of a sudden and staying away from me and my brother a little to go on phone calls (which she never did before) so when we moved into our new home i started to hear my mom talk on the phone to this guy and as i was getting my wash i heard her say, "I love you to babe" which then I knew, she was interested in another guy 1 month before the divorce was finalized.I tried to keep a straight face and i got my mom's phone where there were many messages to this one guy from New Jersey (we live in Arizona). I then looked into the phone and saw their whole conversation pertaining to them meeting up in Oklahoma city where my mom was going to a doctors meeting for pilots. Also they referred to eachother as their fiance which killed me inside. At that point IU knew my mom was cheating on my father even though i knew that their marrage wasnt gonna last any longer for another reason. Last week my mom found out i have been going into her phone and she said she was just flirting with this guy she met on facebook and she was bored but i knew that wasn't the case. My mom grew up in New Jersey and moved after high school where then a year ago went back to her reunion where i believe she met this guy that she went to school with. Today she asked me when she wanted me to allow her to start dating again and i honestly said 1 year at leasat just for us to get settled into our new house ten she asked if she can have a boyfreind who moves here for 2 months and opens a medical practice and I said no. Im afraid to tell her my feelings about how i can hear their conversations in the other room and how I'm hurt that she lied to me and my brother for about half a year maybe and how she cheated on my dad even though the marriage was never going to last. I know this is confusing and im trying to say it without missing to many details. Thank you for listening to my story.

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  • seankessinger
    11 years ago

    My parents were just recently divorced, but they hadn't been together for years. It was totally acceptable for my mom to date other guys. That's not cheating. The marriage was over, just not legally yet...

    Besides your mom can do whatever she want's and it's not your place to tell her what she can and can't do.

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago

    in my personal opinion, if my parents werent happy together and they got a divorce, then i would understand. i guess it depends on how old you are as to how you deal with this situation.
    she obviously respects you and loves you enough to ask you for your permission to date another guy. it will take you a while to get used to the idea that your parents arent together anymore but you need to realise that your parents need to be happy too.

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  • lol_bamf
    13 years ago

    ^Disagree. It sounds like her mom is making rash and immature decisions with out any disregard to how her children feel. Honestly, how would you feel if your parents divorced and two months later your mom's fellow adulterer moved in?

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    You have no right "allowing" your mother to do anything! Your mother is the adult and should be the one in charge. You are not mature enough or experienced enough to be the one making life decisions. If left up to a child...your mother will remain miserable for many years to come.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Yes, I'm in a similar situation (plus a few other problems) and I'm not on good terms with my mom either.

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