Is it normal for me to go through my bf's phone.

You shouldn't live in paranoia of him cheating like that, enjoy every second of the relationship to the best of your ability. Live for the moment.

If you claim "I can't trust him" as an excuse to snoop..... you're in the wrong relationship.

Or rather ... HE may be in the wrong relationship.

NO ONE should have to put up with someone who snoops just to "make sure" they're not cheating.

Unless you're trying to give him a reason to leave you. In which case... um, carry on?

You sound like an awesome girlfriend...not!

You can't control someone.

he probably goes through your shit too.

Jealousy? Fear? Insecurity? Normal.

If he's done anything to make you suspect anything suspicious, I say go for it, check his phone and look for evidence. I can't stand cheaters anyways, I hope he isn't doing anything behind your back. If he is, bring him shame and embaressement please.

It's fine you just care and are scared of losing him. But if he doesn't know about you going through his phone be careful

I don't understand the whole "I love him but I don't trust him" nonsense. Has he done anything for you to not trust him?

Honestly, i know just how you feel!!! I did the same thing and for a while it kept him in line. There some things that he had been doing that he could have potentially gotten in trouble for. But i also was checkin the for things that i had to reliaze wasn't a big deal. It all depends what youre looking for... I understand what you mean when you say you love him but dont trust him. When i would question him, i would have him take me through his phone. That way its fair for both of us. My bf was totally okay with it. And its fair to look through his phone in that kind of mindset.

My mom told me when I was a baby she used to tail my dad and go through his stuff because he had all these other side dishes. He bragged about them all the time.She wanted to figure out what was so bad about her that he had to date other women.until one day she realized it wasn't worth being with someone you can't trust.That doesn't respect you.

This is a total invasion of privacy BUT if he gave you good reason to be suspicious and is not being true to his word, better to find out. My boyfriend recently stayed out all night and did not return home until 1PM the NEXT DAY and his story did not add up to me. So, I snooped in his phone. He was very angry and put a pass code on his phone so I can't snoop anymore. That's fine, believe me there's stuff I saw in there I would rather not have seen and I don't necessarily want him to go through my phone. However, if someone does something like stay out all night long, is secretive, and gives you cause...they need to either come clean or a girl's got to do what a girl's got to do.

Let's list possibilities (Whether or not any are true, none to offend):

1. You have a low self confidence and you should work on that. You feel as though you are not good enough, so he must be cheating; which means you think he's being sneaky but he's really not.

2. You are having thoughts of cheating/or cheated already and are projecting your feeling of guilt onto him.

3. He is being sneaky and he's cheating.

In any of those cases, looking through the phone does nothing but grow your paranoia and feed emotion. My philosophy has always been: If he's cheating, I'll find out eventually and it wasn't meant to be anyway; so it doesn't matter.

Normal. But i do think you 2 should talk to each other about it. its not healthy thats for sure!

If he is willing to take you through his phone, go ahead. Otherwise leave. We all have occasional doubts about our trust but giving him reason to lose trust in you is not a way to deal with it. Handle trust stuff together, honestly or go your separate ways.

Radar you stole my answer.

After one year!!! No it's not normal and regardless of what you think, this is NOT love and it will NOT last with you two. Move on ASAP.