Is it normal for me to feel unhappy around my mom

Is it normal that I feel depressed around my mom. She makes me feel trapped and unhappy. And I don't know why. I don't want to feel this way but I do and I have for about 3-4 years now. I love my mom but I don't appreciate her company. The thing thats getting to me the most is that she will take my flaws or things that I'm not good at or things that I'm not proud of and use them as a way for insulting me when she mad at me. Another thing that's start to get to me is her since of ownership. For example her car... I am very well aware that it's her car and I always have been but it her car 90% of the time until something is wrong then it's our car it's our problem. I can clean the kitchen every night and the one night I don't I'm the worst person in the world to her I'm lazy I never do anything right and so on. Don't get me wrong I'm no angel. I have my flaws and I do try to work on them the best way I know how. My mom and I have been through A LOT of crap. And I thought it would make us stronger. I honestly just don't want to be around her any more. But I know that I cant make it alone in life I need people to be there for me and she's the closes thing to being there for me. And she has her good days where she trys to be encouraging I guess she has her days when she wants to play nice. But honestly that just makes me even more mad. Some days I feel like it really is me like it's my fault. I'm the problem I'm holding life back for the both of us. She has even told me I was the reason we can't move forward in life. And then other days I feel like it's not me like it's her. I can't please her ever whim of who she thinks I'm supposed to be I can only try to make myself a better person. everyday I try to change my thinking I try to just brush off her rudeness and bad comments about who I am. And I've been doing pretty well I think. and I can't even talk to her about how I feel because the moment I say something she dissagress with I'd get a look or she just start flipping out then I'm Evey name in the book and I'm a lazy little selfish hateful bitch and anything else she wants to call me. And believe it or no this is really difficult for me to talk about this I'm not one to involve outsiders in my personal life. But is it me should I be changing myself. Or is it normal for a mom to depress you?
P.s. sorry for any misspelled words spell check isnt working so good today.