Is it normal for me to feel this hurt & betrayed?

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My ex of almost 6 years cheated on me. He was messing around with an 18 year old.. Btw I'm 21 and a half and he's 22. After I found out he swore I meant more to him than other girls but basically he chose to be with her. I'm 21 a fashion design student who is graduating this June with a bachelors in Fine Arts. I plan to go back to school for either a masters or pursue a degree in marketing & merchandising. This other girl works at a burger joint and a jewelry store. I realized that he isn't trying to change and he made his decision so I can't fight for us anymore. But he constantly blows my phone up & I don't pick up or text back. Because when i was crying, hurt, & trying to fix us he wasn't. Now that i care less and am healing he wants to call & text. We were together since high school and I found out he messed with other girls too. I feel stupid because I was actually faithful not being bothered with other guys just focusing on school, him, my family, and my friends. But he didn't believe I was faithful. To this day I still love him and it hurts like heck. But don't think I could ever be with him because of how he hurt me. I want to pick up the phone for him sometimes but I don't think that's the best idea because I know he still messes with that girl and probably others and I have no time for that.. My 10 year plan post graduation includes marriage, a home, a career & a kid. And he's clearly not ready or mature enough for that. People would tell him all the time I'm the one, he's got something good, but he didn't believe that. Not only did he cheat but he said hurtful things to me like I mean nothing to him, I'm dumb, and basically tried to break me down. But I know better I'm blessed, intelligent and beautiful. During the time of our break up he lost his job and car. But when I tried to help him by enrolling him in driving classes and looking for jobs he pushed me away. Idk if what he's doing is a phase, or a test, but it hurts everyday not being with him but I know I have bigger things to focus on. He lost something good.. Right? Also he swore she was the one but why still call me? Calling about 17 to 30 times a day a times. I love him so much he was my 1st everything, but I don't respect him. Give me some insight please. Thanks

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Move on girl and be grateful that you didn't meet him at 25 yo and waste that amount of time on him. He will always cheat on women. He didn't care when he hurt you and he was always looking for someone better. Perhaps he hasn't got anyone at the minute so thought he'd pick you up again - for a while.

    You are doing the right thing by avoiding all contact as this is the easiest way to heal yourself - and send him a clear message.

    You have many many years ahead of you and will meet loads of great men - continue to be selective!

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  • Memehoney
    12 years ago

    I forgot to mention before all this happened it felt like a fairytale. We were more than friends I could tell him things I would not tell anyone else. When we were together it was an amazing feeling in the atmosphere. My family like him and his liked me. We played around with each other like bestfriends. But we did argue a lot and he was always assuming because I'm pretty I have a bunch of male friends. Which was not true I was 100% faithful. I never thought this would happen I thought instead we'd be planning for a future engaged with a baby on the way since I'm graduating soon and opening my business soon. But instead it's like were enemies. The only thing that keeps me from crying & breaking down is not to see him, talk to him, think about him, and to act as if he doesn't exist. Nevertheless sometimes I do wonder what he's calling to say and if it's what I hope and pray he realizes. That I truly love him and he has my heart no matter how broken and hurt it is. However I won't stand for games and bull crap were too old for that. And I refuse to play games. All I ever asked is for him to not let me down.

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