Is it normal for me to feel offended by my bf wanting to watch porn?

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my bf has had drastically different types of sexual relationships and i on the other hand havent...never been with the same sex..nor do i desire. never got into porn..watching others have sex turned me off actually...never desired to participate in a threesome or swingers thing. its always had different meaning to me. always felt that out of everything u have to offer someone there is only one thing that u can give someone that nobody else has...and that is yourself sexually. i dont judge him for his past at all..we all have one..but i do find it offensive to have him ask me if he can watch a porn before we have sex. it is down right disrespectful. to me that is like saying...oh baby i want u but first i have to check out these other chics getting it force fed to them or taking it in multiple holes by mulitple people...that turns me on. then says but im not looking at the girls bodies...im looking at the technique. BULLSH@@t!!! really? like im a frickin fool. to me that is the same as going to some massive swap meet...where everybody kinda screws in the same area n everybody watches everybody and kinda just moves around the room. that is warped. i feel confident in my performance with a guy sexually...i just feel like it is something that should stay between two people. it wouldnt be in the 10 commandments if it wasnt important.....tho shall not lust thy neighbor. u know maybe that has something to do with the reason marriages dont last cause of all the porn at ur fingertips anymore. it creates and illusion that if they are on tv then its not cheating or wrong...or if they are strippin n im giving them my baby milk money but i dont actually get to stick my member inside any holes than im not doing anything wrong. k....back to that commandment..didnt say tho shall not pork they neighbor..said shall not lust they neighbor. there should be only one person that he needs to see. why is it ok for them to get worked up over the 4 or 5 gapping holes on the porn and then say okay im ready...like saying oh im turned on by them but since i cant have them ill just settle for u.
....maybe im just a phsyco or maybe im not...im leaning towards the latter. what do u think?

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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    Women often don't understand male sexuality but, in this case, I'm with you. Porn before sex? I'd be hugely insulted. It's almost as if he's saying he needs something to get himself in the mood, as if having sex with you is not enough in itself.

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  • watcher2005
    10 years ago

    Are you my wife?

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    12 years ago

    And I guess I'd wanna ask, does he watch porn before every time, or on occassion? If it's on occassion it's not so bad, if it's every time I may pester him to see if somethings wrong that he doesn't wanna talk about

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    12 years ago

    Just because you feel one way about sex doesn't mean your feelings apply to everyone. Your boyfriends opinion is empirically just as valuable as yours, so take a deep breath and accept that this is an area in which you two have different opinions. And let it go. :) relationships are too important to bicker over a difference in opinion.

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  • Uzzie101
    13 years ago

    To be fair, he's only human. Other women will always turn him on. But tell him to grow up, he shouldn't need to watch porn right before sex. Watching it in general is 100% OK, but if he needs to watch it before an actual ride, that's plain stupid.

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  • honeybeee
    13 years ago

    Yeah I hate guys that watch porn when they have gf's why do all guys hav to be perverts it's not fair and then they say ohh I promise I won't look I only need u and then u look at his computer history and find out that he was looking at porn the whole time u were talking to him online and that he was looking at a 15 year old and says he only likes her coz she has big boobs! Guys are discusting and can't just be with one girl and not want to watch sluts coz they are retarded

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