Is it normal for me to fall in love with my 14 year old stepdaughter ?

There is actually a name and cure for your condition. It's called slimeballitis and the cure is castration.

You are in need of serious help. First of all, your wife, with whom you exchanged vows, doesn't deserve this, and you don't deserve her. Secondly, her daughter doesn't deserve you, and you certainly do not have what it takes to be called a Dad. What a child needs is a caregiver/protector/guardian, not a pleasure-seeking/predator/slimeball like you doing something stupid that will require her to spend lots of time in therapy.

What you need to do is be honest with your wife, let her kick you out, and let her keep everything.

In the meantime, keep your hands off of her daughter, go crawl back under the rock you came from, and stay there.

That is the end of tonight's rant.

thanks for all your comments just to let you know i will be doing the right thing im leaving tomorow i didnt need the nasty comments all i needed was advice and a liitle push in the right direction so before i even read your comments id already decided to leave on my own accord oh and bye the way id love you to say that to me in person id put you in hospital for a very long time

I know I'm late at this but to be complety honest I think it's normal. Being in love with a 16 year old doesn't make you a pedophile it's different if you don't love a person and do sexual events with them I am actually in a relationship with my stepfather and we've been together for years now

you do know that is pedophelia

Well confused guy by your use of the word mate I'd wonder if you were the same guy who wrote a similar story with revising gender roles, idk if this was you , & are just trying for reactions, but my honest advice or comment THANK GOD you decided to leave on your own, because your stepdaughter is to young to make/ understand the right from wrong & while your & her feelings feel very real they are very wrong & you as the adult have to make her understand that., also you might want to tell your wife for many reasons, 1the daughter might have a thing for older men thus scaring her or turning her out 2she probably still loves u & is confused as to wat she did wrong but if she knew the truth that could help,.

I'm an ex wife and mother. My daughter is 14. I met my ex husband 8 years ago and together we raised my daughter. We separated 3 yeara ago. Although the marriage didn't work we continued to co-parent. Over the last 18 months we have become closer than ever and as best friends living separately have grown our life together. 8 years ago we were panhandling for gas money to get to work, and now we are for successful business owners. We have spoiled my daughter rotten. Designer clothes, designer makeup, way too much freedom, gym membership, and anything else a 14 year old girl could ever want.
I think a lot of that comes from the fact that we were not able to provide her with anything for so long. Ramen noodles for dinner for a lot of years.
The last seven months I've had a boyfriend. It's the first relationship I've been in since separating from my ex husband. started out well enough, after only a few months and I knew it wasn't going to work. It took a while, but I finally broke it off 11 days ago. I
Had already started sleeping with my ex 3 weeks ago. The way things were going, it was an unspoken, but we were getting back together. It was going to be better than ever.
The second night that my boyfriend was gone, my ex came to hang out. He had a couple beers, we smoked some weed, he had a cold so he had taken some NyQuil to. My brother stayed the night that night, so my ex so uncomfortable sleeping in my bed. Our families knew we had been co parenting and Friends, but not really the extent of our relationship.
So he slept in my daughter's room. It wasn't abnormal to me, they had often went on trips alone, and she spent more time with him than me.
And again our newly forming relationship will still unspoken.
He was always such a good dad to her.
That night, the first time he slept at my house and over 2 years, she woke me up at 2 a. M. To tell me who raped her.
I did what any good mother would do. I confronted him and made him leave my house, and I took my daughter to the hospital where we filed a police report. The physical exam was positive for abuse and the DNA is still out.
He texted me the next day and we talked about how our world just ended. I was angry and asked a lot of questions, he could only apologize and tell me it's not her fault.
The next day he was arrested.
He has priors and is currently on probation for manufacturing hash oil.
His bond was set at $100,000 cash only with an additional hold from probation.
Meanwhile my daughter and I were interviewed a hundred times, Social Services has been to my house, and the DA calls me almost everyday.
My stance is to do what is best for my daughter.
Today my ex called me from jail. You couldn't tell me anything because it's all recorded, but apparently there's a lot to the story. It doesn't make what he did any better, but it makes it scary for me and my daughter in the future. They had a whole Secret Life.
Here I am thinking I'm this awesome co-parents who discusses her needs and work together to meet them.
I have been nothing but a hundred percent supportive of her since she came forward. She has no idea the thoughts that are in my head.
I'm still in the dark, the one left behind. Good now I have so many questions that I'm not allowed to ask.
I had to give her my unconditional love, even if she might have just done something really terrible.
She saw the unspoken relationship forming she'd like to talk s***to him for being in love with me. It wasn't often in front of me, but it was something we talked about. She always played it off as humor.
I know 100% that I don't want a relationship with that man.
But I am still so curious in the role my daughter played.
Because of his priors he's facing life. And for ruining our lives I'm okay with that.
How do I approach my daughter, the most important person in my life. I'm the adult and she's only a child, so I guess I may never know what her motivation was. And regardless of motivation he was still wrong.
There are so many crazy questions and thoughts in my head.
I will always pick my daughter, regardless of her role, I'm also going to grieve the life that was in my head, and the love that I thought I had.
It's crazy how everything can change in one day.
This Thread is 7 years old, and I can't help it to help that little girl and her mama are just fine today

Not normal...this is pedophilia...she is under the age of 16...sicko

ok, i know you already chose your desidion... and im in total agreement for what you did. it wasnt fair to treat ur ex wife like that. But anyway, all i wanted to say, was i dont think you were in love with her. i think you had a strong emotional attraction to her, called love. but you werent IN LOVEwith her. example:i love my stepfather to pieces. but im not in love with him... Does that make sense to anyone?????

HAH! I hope her mommy doesn't read this or you are screwed..and not in the good way. I think you need to leave the house and go live in a tent, by yourself.

Wait 4 years then hit it.

Wait... I forgot one thing...

Dirtbag!

Now I'm done with the rant.

Promise.

Whoa. That is a situation

ACCIDENTILY kill your wife.
Take the daughter on a trip around the US, making her perform sex acts in seedy hotels.
Wait, this isn't Lolita?!
Nvm.