Is it normal for me to fall harder for an asshole?

Why is that woman tend to flock to those morons for some reason? Nice guys finish last in everything, and I mean everything. It must have something to do with the sub-conscious idea or belief that these guys who are "assholes" have more confidence and dont care what people think so that for some reason is more attractive.

I hope that you dont end up getting hurt, but it may be the only thing that will teach you to stay away from those idiots.

Assholes, as you call them, cause strong emotions in other people, even if those are negative. Whereas the sweet, supportive guys (again - as you call them) don't cause any emotions at all.

Strong negative emotions - hate, disgust, loathing - can be reversed into positive ones. No emotions can't be transformed into anything - from nothing comes nothing.

That is the simple version.

Seems to me that most girls fall for assholes, because they think they can change them. But an asshole will always be an asshole. Find men that are worth having or being around, and stop dating assholes, look for the nicer guys.

It's sadly normal. If you've known douchiness from those you love growing up, you may associate bad behaviour with love. Like a drug, you have to teach yourself what is better for you. In a way, unpleasant things can be exciting. Boring love is good!

Women are attracted to fearlessness. Fearless people don't feel the need to be nice all the time

normal. i don't know why it is that women prefer an asshole to a nice guy. maybe they just like the challenge of trying to change him.

I never have.

From what I've seen, this is too normal.

Douchebags arent worth your time. Find a nice guy, and give him a chance for the sake of yourself! Douchebags are nothing but sex toys anyway! A nice guy is the REAL MAN here. But go ahead and use those douchebags toys anyway if you want sex.

You are just looking for what you think would match best according to how you feel about them. I won't be explaining the many reasons and psychological mechanisms that got you locked into this in the first place, all I am gonna say is: it is normal. Considering the social environment that nurtured you and significantly contributed to forming your personality. Perhaps what attracts you the most is knowing they won't get all attached to you. Since you are the kind of person who needs "personal space" and an on and off type of affectiveness.

Get your heart broken a few times by those showers (I don't understand why it's an insult, douche clearly means shower in french) and you'll change your mind hopefully. Unless you love getting hurt. Do whatever makes you happy I guess.