Is it normal for me to desire my deceased boyfriends brother?

That's pretty normal and natural. In fact, historically, in both European, American, and other cultures if there was an unmarried brother it was expected that he would marry his deceased brother's wife and be a father to his children.

In fact, he would probably be one of the best choices (if not the best) for your daughter because he is blood related to her and will thus have a stronger interest and care for her, generally speaking, than some stranger. This has been proven fact in genetic studies; parents/grandparents who are closely related/who share a significant amount of genes with children/grandchildren are more likely to care and spend more time with them.

Obviously I would try to take it slow and make sure he is actually right for you and looking to be a real husband and father. But if he is, he would perfect for you and your daughter's well being.

I'm sorry for your loss, and I sincerely wish you the best. If things work out between you I'd love to here of your success with a follow-up comment.

All the best,
Julius E.

Classic this happens a lot

I agree sweety. God bless you <3

be careful, in many cases, if you go so quickly, especially with your dead bfs brother, the family might not like it. if theyre ok with it though, then by all means.

well we now have a steady relationship going. His family doesn't know but they already told me they hope we end up together:)

We had sex! and to be honest it was the most mind blowing passionate sex i've ever had:) We do everytime he comes up for a visit:)

Necrophilia......look into it.....

...not really abnormal but it would probably be really fucked up if you guys hooked up.

I didnt know sexuall feelings were a part of greiving do yourself a favor and don't even go there ...this might have been normal if a year or so had gne by but so soon nope its jus seeming desperate...have some respect for the dead.

i'd assume so because he may bring feelings of your deceased bf but i wouldn't recommend acting on it. Give it some time damn. You may be subconsciously looking to rebound.

probably becuause he is alot like your boyfriend

sorry guys i was having a shit day

IIN for me to want to drive my neighbors car? I have my own car, and it's a lot newer and in far better shape then his. His is actually fairly old actually and in bad condition. I don't normally get urges to drive other people's cars, but for some reason I just want to take his and drive it around the block three or four times. I'm not sure yet if part of me wants to smash it into a tree, I like the guy, so I'm not sure that's part of it. I may think on it a bit more and decide if it is also my desire to trash his car and bash in the front end on something. Anyways, any advice out there?

Its very natural for you to be attracted to him for a few reason. He's human contact after a traumatic experience. Any person would seek some sort of comfort or consolation after such a thing happened to them. He was readily available after your boyfriend died so it was probabaly an inevitablity that you two would be somewhat together.

Also being his brother is can be a subtle signal that he has a family resemblance. If he looks in any way at all you may not notice you are attracted to him since it will be a subconcious trigger.

I'd talk to him first. Discussion and knowing eachother feelings before anything goes any further is always a good step. Hope all is well.