Is it normal for me to call my girlfriend beautiful instead of sexy

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Okay before you answer, me and my girlfriend have dated for two years and we have become very close friends. It's kinda weird because I talk to her about personal things that I wouldn't even tell my best friend (male). I have a lot of respect for her and she does the same for me. I love her to death and I've had a crush on her since the day we met. She is a girl that most guys would say "damn she's sexy" but I hate when people say that stuff about her, I don't know why but I only call her beautiful and pretty, but I can tell that she gets upset sometimes because I don't say she's sexy. I just find the words "hot" and "sexy" too low for her if you know what I mean, she's a sophisticated girl and I feel like that those words demean her. is it normal that I only call her pretty or beautiful instead sexy and hot?

FYI I'm a senior in high school and she's graduated.

P.s I know my friends joke around with me all the time and say I have the feelings of an adolescent girl haha, but what can I say it's true lol.

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  • ggeineg
    12 years ago | pl

    You respect her. That's good, keep it up

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    • Sidekickz
      12 years ago

      yeah youre right. sayin sexy can come over as a sexist aproach

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      • sapincher
        12 years ago

        I really don't think calling your girlfriend "sexy" ends up sounding sexist at all for the same reasons having sex with your girlfriend isn't sexist. Of course, though, if you called your chemistry professor "sexy" then you'd have a problem on your hands.

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        • Sidekickz
          12 years ago

          i gues youre right but it can still sound a bit sexist i think

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    • XxBlackSheepxX
      12 years ago

      hey there sugar tits

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  • Budda
    12 years ago

    congratulations, youre officially not a douche bag...

    the douch bag population is growing andit is goodto see that every once in a while a good person comes into view

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    • TyLee
      12 years ago

      Agreed!

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  • Jweezee
    12 years ago

    Don't get caught up in semantics. If she wants to hear she's hot, humor her.

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  • Ldizzy1234
    12 years ago

    Normal. I always hated calling someone hot. For some reason whenever I think of someone I find extremely good looking/attractive, and I'm really interested in them, I never like to say that they're hot. For some reason I just never liked that word, and honestly, whenever I like a guy I'm probably gonna say cute over hot any day.

    I think its nice that you prefer beautiful or pretty over hot. It shows how much you probably respect her, and that you're not there to just fuck, you actually really do care about her.

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  • Shackleford96
    12 years ago

    I think it is normal for you to feel like those words are kind of degrading. I also think that it is normal for her to feel a little put off about you never saying them to her though. Maybe you should try to incorporate those words or other similar words sometimes. She just needs to know that you absolutely do think she is "sexy" and "hot," but you don't necessarily have to use those exact words if you really don't want to.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    perhaps she's bothered because she's entering a stage where men and women start having physical relationships.

    and if you don't think of her as sexy - and dislike others thinking of her with desire.... in all honesty she sounds more like she's your sister and not your girlfriend.

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    • sapincher
      12 years ago

      Agreed

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  • chewy
    12 years ago

    Man up and call her sexy

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  • RomeoDeMontague
    10 years ago

    I think a lot of women would prefer that.

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  • megadriver
    10 years ago

    I call mine beautiful too! Or ''Schatz'' (German word meaning sweetheard or literally - treasure)
    I do call her babe (But that is very rarely and is under the effects of alcohol)
    She means so much to me. I can't call her a word that describes a woman, only as sexy.

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  • w014snk
    11 years ago

    I would much rather have my boyfriend tell me I'm beautiful and pretty rather than hot and sexy. Maybe you should just talk to her about it and tell her you think shes better than sexy or hot. and if she still wants you to call her that then occasionally do it because you know it will make her happy, but I wouldn't stop calling her beautiful or pretty. :)

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  • Seustewart
    12 years ago

    Beautiful and sexy are 2 totally different animals.

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  • sapincher
    12 years ago

    If you purposefully make a distinction between "beautiful" and "sexy", that tells me you find her attractive in the general sense, but she isn't really the type you're looking for.

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  • sunnyray
    12 years ago

    you gotta call her sexy sometimes... to show that not only do you love her and think she is beautiful, but you are sexually attracted and she arouses you. a girl likes ro know that beautiful comes first, but sexy is there or she might become jealous of super models or sluts she should not be jealous of

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  • jenn1mc
    12 years ago

    No it's not normal, but every girl wishes it was.

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  • feather0612
    12 years ago

    It is perfectly normal to tell her she is beautiful, and if she doesn't like it then she's a weirdo. when my bf called me beautiful i felt more happy and closer to him than when he said i looked sexy or hot. You're a good guy that focuses on the real stuff, don't stop!

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  • rachel_h91
    12 years ago

    I rather my bf call me beauiftul which i think you call her that is sweet good job

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  • lc1988
    12 years ago

    This is a new concept to me. I always thought hot and sexy were at the top but come to find out it's not. When did this rule come about?! I actually got mad at my bf for the same thing not too long ago but he explained and it's all good.

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  • YumInsanity
    12 years ago

    Wtf you're such a selfish dick, women don't want to be called "beautiful" what are you, gay? They want to be objectified and drooled on and occasionally fingered in a parking lot. You need to start thinking of your girlfriend and not yourself

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