Is it normal for me to be mad he thinks i'm lying?

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I broke up with my boyfriend of 6 months a bout a month ago. my doubts kinda started in April, when I got my acceptance letter to the college i've been dream to go to since 6th grade It was a life changer for me. I knew the instant it was in my hands that I needed to pray hard about my relationship I felt comfortable with it playing out a lot, cause I cared (care) about him a lot. I didn't take things into consideration as I should have. and I should have told him my doubts when they first surfaced,
but I kinda forgot about them and shoved them aside.
I'm a person that needs adventure everyday, my ex is more of a movie and cuddle erreyday person. and I should have talked more about that with him too, and I didn't.
Then I started hanging out with a guy, who's like my best friend, I dated him last year. but those feelings are not there anymore. but he goes to the college as well, and we started talking, which started back up the earlier doubts. but he asked questions and kinda laid down the facts.
every weekend is a mission opportunity with my peers, my close friends, my college family. I have a heart that will want to do them all.
I didn't want to be tied down here with all that going on.
and with that mind set already, i knew if I drug it out more, it would end up hurting us both more in the end.
all in all. I should have watched what I said more closely.
My ex thinks I broke up with him for this other guy, which IS NOT the case. I'm hurt that he thinks I would lie. Should I confront him about this? it is effect other friendships that think i'm lying also, and I don't really get why.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    11 years ago

    "My ex thinks I broke up with him for this other guy"

    If being told the truth won't convince him... he may be in a stage where it's easier to think bad things about you vs accepting the truth that you just weren't suited for each other.

    I'd suggest telling him to knock it off and pulling back from the relationship for a while.

    You care about him yes, but that doesn't mean you should have to defend yourself. I mean his accusations cannot be proven or disproven really.

    sometimes when you break up with someone, you can't always keep them as friends. at least not at first

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  • rekltalni
    11 years ago

    Just find proof. its normal that he thinks you're lying. No proof = no belief. Its math.

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  • jucedaguy
    11 years ago

    You want to do them all? Man, no wonder the guy is hurt.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    "Then I started hanging out with a guy, who's like my best friend, I dated him last year. but those feelings are not there anymore. but he goes to the college as well, and we started talking, which started back up the earlier doubts. but he asked questions and kinda laid down the facts.
    every weekend is a mission opportunity with my peers, my close friends, my college family. I have a heart that will want to do them all."

    Don't know why he'd think you were lying but he dodged a bullet anyway, you sound like a tooly tool tool!

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  • jondoerandom
    11 years ago

    Hmm.. of you broke up with your ex, why do you care what he thinks? I don't get people who really try to stay "friends". Seems very artificial to me.

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  • Zetsubunny
    11 years ago

    It's normal because you didn't lie to him, but there are holes that need to be patched up in order for you to move on. If he still doesn't accept, at least you did your best.

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