Is it normal for me to be in love with an older man?

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I am 20 years old and I am 100% in love with a 56 year old man. He's also in love with me. He has the same job as my dad. That is how I met him. We have so much fun together. We laugh, play games, just chill and watch movies, and just talk about personal things. No one has ever made me so happy in my life. When I hear his voice, I smile. When I see him, I smile. When he cuddles me, I smile and thank god for what he has given me. When he's away, I'm sad and depressed and have never missed anyone so much. I know this is weird and I know what a lot of people are thinking but we are sooooooooo happy together. I can't see my life any other way.

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  • ragefultuna
    13 years ago

    If it's true love go for it :)

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  • johnnyB4u
    13 years ago

    Well if it's true love, do it. But I agree with the above posts, you'll end up taking care of him before he dies. He will die much sooner than you and you will probably want to find someone else.

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  • Mel
    13 years ago

    He was older than you are right now, when you were being BORN. Thats sick. He'll be dead by the time youre 35, sorry to say. If you want to be lonely, go for it.

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  • fancyj
    13 years ago

    Your only twenty. Someone else will make you happy.

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  • sherry
    13 years ago

    Run from that man. I married a man 14 years older than me and I loved him very much. Now years later I'm worn out taking care of him. He is always in the hospital. We can't travel b/c he is too sick. He will suck your young life out of you. You will throw away your life if you stay with him. It's not fair to either party. It is not the way things were intended to be.

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  • lewlew80
    13 years ago

    R u kidding me with dating ur granddaddy?

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  • mystery7
    8 years ago

    If you love each other why not? If you can have 10 or 15 years of happiness go for it.

    How long do most marriages these days last anyway? Most don't go past 10 or 15 years if they even get that far.

    One person will get bored of the relationship, or as happened to me she has to go 'find herself' and the relationship ends anyway, or one of the partners cheats or falls for someone else. Good luck to you both.

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  • TotalAspie
    12 years ago

    If you can't relate to people your age and you know what you're getting into, then go for it.

    Although I know some "experts" would be against this, since there's a rule of thumb called "half your age plus seven," which is used to determine if a relationship is healthy. (Which would mean no older than 37 for someone who's 20.) But someone else said that age is just a number, just make sure it's legal and that love is the primary factor!

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  • jessicia16
    13 years ago

    my mother was 24 years younger than my father ... and they have everythinng anyone could hope for with tons of love ,, me personally im WAY more attracted to older guys, i believe its nature... older guys have the qualitys I admire and its very easy to see past small physical things when your super turned on by a guys personality and mature wise nature.... young guys are so small minded and emotionally still stuck on the nipple ... i wouldnt care how rich or attractive a young guy is , id throw up at the thought of a relationship with a guy around my age :):) anyway good luck to you and i would say GO FOR IT! , its so lucky to find a guy you really want and care for... and for all the right reasons to boot... best wishes

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  • tomcat1974
    13 years ago

    I'm 36 and my wife is 25, we have 2 beautiful boys and r happy....maybe one day she will have to take care of me...but shell do it..and you know why...she loves me and love knows no age...love is love..age is a number....although I have to say something...spend as much time with him as u van and enjoy every minute..

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  • hotchickie81
    13 years ago

    A friend of mine is 22 and her man is 54. They are in love and have a baby together. Age is just a number :)

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    • awilke1218
      13 years ago

      Thanks for the comment. Yours was the only one that made me feel better really. A couple made me cry. Like thinking about him being sick and in the hospital all the time. id never want to see him like that. I think thats really great that your friend loves this much older man and has a baby with him. and your right age is only a number. "Age is the difference between mind over matter, if you don't mind, it doesn't matter!"

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  • stealinsugars
    13 years ago

    Right now you may not think it matters, but it will. If he loves you, he'll see he's not being fair to you. What kind of life do you think you'll have with this man? Have you thought about what will happen if you want children or if you should get pregnant? I think deep down you know all this and that's why you posed this question. I'm sorry to seem harsh, but you really need to consider everything that you've gotten in response to your post.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Tbh that sucks because he will die so much sooner than you... Lol sorry. But still good for you

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