Is it normal for me to be horny for my stepdaughter?

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When I was 30, I met and fell in love with a woman who was 47. She and I got married when I was 35 and she 52; at the time, she had a grown daughter of 25. My stepdaughter (she always called me by my first name) was married and had two daughters. Her mother, my wife, died of cancer when she was 62 and I was 40. I moved away and lost contact with my stepdaughter and step-grandchildren. I am now 58; six months ago, my stepdaughter (now 49, and divorced) and I found each other via the Internet, and we have been talking on a daily basis. Over the past week or so, my feelings have become more romantic and sexual toward her, but I haven't told her how I feel. I think I am falling in love with her, and I think she is attracted to me...but I think she feels weird because I was her stepfather, her mother's lover and husband. Should I tell her how I feel? Is it appropriate for me to ask her out and make a pass at her? Or am I being inappropriate?

Appropriate; go get her! 64
Inappropriate; back off! 46
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  • Energy
    12 years ago

    Back off, Bro. That's just to weird...and you're putting her into an awkward situation. There's lots of women your age I say go out and meet them!

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  • FocoUS
    12 years ago

    I would feel weird dating a guy a friend dated.

    I would definately feel weird dating the guy my mom was married too.

    Back off.

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  • bryson_willis
    12 years ago

    correct me if I'm wrong but,

    you 30, wife 47 ok.
    you 35, wife 52, daughter 25 ok.
    you 40, wife 62?
    your wife jumped 5 years ahead?

    you 58, daughter 49.. ok.kind of

    I can see you getting away with it for two reasons.
    a) although you were her step dad for 15 years, those were 15 years while she was an adult. I doubt you were ever daddy.

    b) the age gap is only ~10 years, which is within the social norm in society for someone in their late 50's.

    But I can also see you being badly mistaken. because as men we tend to interpret even moderately warm interactions as flirting. She may be warm to you because she see's you as family not hunky McHunk.

    What I'm saying is, I can see your reasoning but, IT WILL BLOW UP IN YOUR FACE!!

    The only reason Woody Allen got away with it is because he has lot's of money and can distract people with blockbuster movies. I doubt you have either my friend.

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  • Crudhouse
    12 years ago

    There's no problem except your kids might have a really hard time at school. Also, they might have some weird mental problems when they get older (or so I hear).

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    • Shackleford96
      12 years ago

      They are not blood related. What you are implying does not apply here.

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      • Crudhouse
        12 years ago

        Kids have it hard. Imagine trying to explain their parents' relationship to their friends. They WILL have a tough time

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  • DiscoDuck
    12 years ago

    If she feels the same way GO FOR IT!!!

    You only live once, both adults...everyone else be damned. Its your life LIVE IT!

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  • Honeypot2000
    3 years ago

    Both mature adults capable of making decisions such as this. You will always regret not taking the chance

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  • pinklove8
    11 years ago

    I completely understand what you feel about her n how it's possible for u to feel that way. I'm currently in an affair with my stepfather for 6yrs now n we fell more deeper in love with each other through the years. It all started with lust n it turned out into a friendship n romance that we both never ever had. I had a lot of anger towards my mom that's why I didn't really care about her. However, as I get older and try to have a family of my own, i have to face the reality. And it breaks me apart because I cannot be with him. I cannot have his kid because I don't wanna grow old, n raise that kid n take care of him at the same time. He's double my age Ni need someone to grow old with. if I choose him over my family that will break is apart

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  • Alison89
    12 years ago

    I don't know, but at some point, your wife aged faster than you did. When you met, she was 17 years older. Ten years later, she was 22 years older.

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  • Dozis
    12 years ago

    you'd be horny for anything looking like a volubile curvy thing with a hole.
    1)they are called contraceptives
    2)they are called stereotypes.
    3) he is not genetically related to her.
    Is this your idea of constructive commentary or you are just doing some pretentious hypocritical anti incest propaganda? Are you on a payroll?
    The issue here is doing what he has in mind would completely blow away the established family roles.
    Unless he does not belong to one of those boring straight traditional families struggling with their own primal impulses out of fear of god. The typical Guy wanting to be a sinfree and dirty impulses free guy but still warching himself get a hard on everytime his daughter wears a skirt or shows some boobs. Which is just what most people are. Like: oh my god that boy is so hot! oh my god that girl is so hot! I feel so guilty and ashamed for thinking such unholy and dirty things, better go ask my personal moralistic priest alternative for some advice.
    LAME!

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      Like I said. Nothing useful.

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  • BoredGuy
    12 years ago

    like a boss

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