Is it normal for me to always compare myself to others?

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Ever since I was about 13, I've noticed that I'm constantly comparing everything about me to other people. When I was younger than 13, I didn't really notice it, because I was a child and didn't worry as much (leave it to the damned teenage years to ruin me).
I compare everything physical, not including things I own or how big of a house I have or anything like that, but things having to do with the body. Growing up, I always felt so worthless (I'm a Christian, I believe in God, I've had a strong religious faith, but I still felt no purpose). I've always been extremely short and skinny, with a very small frame, which was not very fun when I was a barely-teenage guy and just learning how cruel people are. Also, I'm white and extremely pale, so that added more into the pile. I wasn't very hairy either, I remember some of the kids would make fun if you didn't have hairy legs or arms, which still to this day makes no effing sense to me. Needless to say, there were tons more things that made me so self-conscious, to the point that I felt that every person looking at me would judge me on how I looked right away.
Since then, I always take a good look at anyone I'm around, even friends that I've known for years and have done this to for years, and I look at all basic things (their looks, their skin pigment, their hair, how tall/strong they are) and I compare it to mine. For some reason, I always end up feeling inferior to them because I'm either not as good-looking, or not as tan, or something stupid like that. I just can't stop doing this, and it's really annoying.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    It's normal to compare yourself to others...to a point though. Don't be so down! I used to do the same thing, until I realized that I am NOT other people, and should not compare myself to them. Know that being unique can be a wonderful thing. Instead of comparing yourself to people, you could instead focus on yourself (mentally, and physically if you want) and mold yourself into the person you want to be. If you want to stop comparing yourself to people, then only you can do that from the inside out.

    It worked for me anyways. There is the occasional comparison every now and then, but not as bad as before. Hang in there:)

    Sorry if this is long.

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    • RelapseRaid
      10 years ago

      No, it's not too long at all. Thank you for this, it really helps.

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  • imadragon
    10 years ago

    The only person you should compare yourself to is your past self.

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  • Eas1206
    10 years ago

    Unfortunately that's the society we live in. Its a major part of the consumerism culture. I recently saw a thing that said something along the lines of we feel like we're never good enough because we're always comparing our behind-the-scenes to everyone else's highlight reel.

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  • Aliceee93
    10 years ago

    I've always lacked self confidence. And I have compared myself to other people and at times wish I could be them :/. But I'm over all that now. Im not happy with how i look but I've learned to live with it. You have to make the most of what you've got. :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    That's why I stopped caring about what people thought of me. I get lots of respect for being myself, and if someone has a problem with that I make sure that I confront them about it. I'm a Christian too, and believe that God gives me the courage to trust in Him and fear no man.

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  • GinnyWeasley
    10 years ago

    Normal. I compare myself to others on a daily basis. Not very healthy to be honest

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