Is it normal for me personally to be hurt from this?

Ok I had been friends with this girl who is about 5 years older than me for nearly 4 years.

So long story short she never got out too much. Her father left her and her mom when she was wee little. But I met her while working at a fast food restaurant my junior year in high school so of course I was a teenager. We would hangout quite a bit too.

But after a while of being around her from going to college and coming back during summer to work there I noticed the change in me and how she didn't change. She is a type where she only basically talks about her self and complains quite a bit. I started noticing more last year because after I hungout with her I was so drained when I came home but at the same time her mother did die about a year or so after knowing her. So she lives on her own too. She would go on how we are best friends to people at work too and so on.

But one point last year when were talking on the phone I pretty much had enough of her complaining and all I told her was that she needs to get out more. She got pissed off at me for saying that. So we talked much less after that. And really haven't talked for maybe a little less than a year.

But I notice anymore when I'm around her I would be hey and say her name. And ask her how she is doing. She basically ignores that I'm around when all I was trying to be was a friend. I just needed space too, I had been going through a lot myself. She really didn't know considering I guess she didn't really pay attention to me much just about her car accident and her mom being in the same car and passing away after that happened 2 years ago. Yes I understand that it was hard but goodness it was draining me.

But I have a feeling if I do try to talk to her about it she basically won't try to talk to me about why she is acting the way she does. I think she basically acts like a child and does really need to get out more. But I feel hurt from this for some reason when I should just live my life and ignore her too. I swear she doesn't like optimistic people and used me like I was her mom. And I really don't want to be friends because I know I wouldn't be happy around her again unless she changes and I'm not going to make it happen when she wants to be her.

I have to work with her again now until I find a job that will be much better and that I would enjoy more. But there is a plus she is a manager too. But I need to get over it and just forget but I feel hurt.

And sorry this really isn't that short but there really is more to this story. lol.