Is it normal for long distance to be this way?

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Ok my first time expressing my thoughts on this so here I go lol. I'm in a long distance relationship I live in Florida he lives in California been together 5 months and counting known each other for like a year so far and we hardly see each other he hates talking on the phone and doesn't want to skype he only likes to text. Here's the thing when we are in person together it's like a movie it almost perfect he treats me like a Queen. When we are back at a distance he's a jerk hates talking about feelings unless it's "his" feelings and talks to me any kind of way he says he didn't want to put "in a relationship" on his facebook so he deleted both his accounts I know its seems so stupid facebook but he said he didn't want people to question him so we argued about that plus he's in PR in Cali so he travels alot but doesn't put forth effort to come to Florida he says doesn't have the time nor the funds. I'm always depressed and sometimes not as happy with him but I do love him so much bc I think of when we are together..He tells me he loves me each day but I feel it's not enough also he says he's content with our relationship he said he if only saw me once a year he would still be content that kinda broke my heart bc all I do is think of him and try to be his support system and a great girlfriend but all I get from him is no emotion and the fact that he knows he has control in this relationship makes it worse I'm the one that makes him call me or I call him plus I have to send a text if I chose to call him. He also told me he's 23 and never had a girl who wanted to stay with him longer than 5 moths I couldn't see why at first but Hell now I DO! I'm makeing myself sick I guess I'm scared to be alone and I'm telling myself "give it time he will change" am I lieing to myself? I know Long Distance is hard but I didn't ever think it would be so complicated with a Man who only shows any type of sensitivity is in person he says he has problems... His sister in law is very well known and kinda famous with the top 20 PR firm in Cali you would think he would be happy haveing his degree his dream job and a woman who is willing to do Anything for him

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  • hottmess
    12 years ago

    Sounds like you answered this question yourself hon. I know love makes you blind but common. you deserve better than that. be single, have fun, enjoy your independence. if you feel lonely, just remind yourself that the right guy will come some day. truth is, this guy is probably talking to multiple girls. if you want to whip him into shape, ignore him. for atleast a few days. and he will be begging to talk to you on the phone. hopefully during that time you will have realized you're better than him and move on. being lonely is hard, but you wont be lonely forever. dont waste your time on him when you could be spending it looking for a guy who would drive 1 million miles to see you, or for one who wont have to (because it wont be long distance)

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  • GeorgeMcBob
    12 years ago

    Sorry honey, he's banging another chick.

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  • myownopinions
    12 years ago

    1) Out of sight, out of mind.
    2) What she doesn't know won't hurt her.
    3) Ignorance is bliss.
    4) Absense makes the heart gow fonder is a LIE.
    5) DUMP HIM NOW! THERE ARE MUCH BETTER GUYS OUT THERE FOR YOU.

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  • RinTin
    12 years ago

    You are lying to yourself.

    There has to be communication especially if you're in a long distance relationship. Guys a loser dump him.

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  • lisaa
    12 years ago

    He's cheating, kill him with a stick!

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  • JenAus1217
    12 years ago

    I think you're right about long-distance relationship being hard. What makes it hard is that since both of the lovers in the relationship aren't able to meet each other frequently and don't really know much about each other's daily life, they need extra confidence in each other and extra patience to contact each other.

    It seems like you're trying hard for this long-distance relationship but your boyfriend isn't. I'm sorry for you but it's really problematic when he's reluctant to talk with you on phone/skype or talk about your feelings, and he becomes kind of emotionless when back in California. Very honestly, I think he's being selfish and regardless of your feelings.

    Have you ever talked about your concern with your boyfriend? If you haven't, then I believe it's really unlikely that he'd change on his own. I think you should talk this out with him and let him know your expectation. But of course you wouldn't want to make him feel like you're very discontent or complaining or demanding him to do something. If he wouldn't talk with you, then you may write to him/text him.

    Best of luck! :)

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