Is it normal for husband and wife not to talk

My heart broke when I read this.
I can imagine that you feel very lonely in your relationship.
Though one could argue that this is common, sure, it is common, but that doesnt make it ok. There are so many possibilities as to why he is so disengaged when it comes to conversation; we could discuss that all day. In my opinion, when it comes down to it, you deserve some sort of explination.
Sometimes, as women, we tend to put our needs aside as to not disrupt the peace (or the routine). When we do this, we set a standard, we basically say that its okay to treat me like this because I have never disagreed with it.... soon that snowballs and we all the sudden are standing in the kitchen and wonder 'how the hell did I get here - why does he think its okay to be so disengaged'. There are so many distractions when you have kids, and that can become an easy excuse to not work on the relationship with your spouse - I've done it, a million other women too - it becomes easier to dismiss things that dont sit right with you.
Listen to yourself; who are you, what do you want? I would maybe ask him out for a date, no distractions - say that you want to talk about something important with him and it would mean alot to you if he would go out for _____ with you. Prepare what you want to say/ask and really be honest with yourself - dont be afraid of his answers - dont be afraid if they send you alarm bells because you are going to be ok :)
This is just a suggestion, because I have totally been where you are right now, and it doesnt sit in the stomach well at all. I was very afraid of what I would find if I dug deep - I didnt want my marriage to be a failure, I didnt want my kids to go through this crap........ and if I ignored it..... I would be none the wizer. Well, turns out I cant ignore me so I talked to him, and we are doing well - it took time, but I misconstrued so many things that I just wished I would have discussed at the time I was feeling it.
Good luck and sorry for the length.

You want friendship and companionship to grow as part of your marriage. Keep reaching out and don't rule out counselling help.

Same, except it's my wife that is the ice maiden.

No, not at all. This is sad to read. A good relationship needs communication to thrive. He needs to think about the effect this could have on the children if they ever have a relationship with someone. I wonder what his problem is. Do you think you could get him to agree to couples counselling? Write it on a piece of paper I'd he doesn't feel like hearing you out. Good Luck.

You need to be assertive here. Approach him. Make sure the tv is off. If its not ask him to turn it off because you need to talk. Tell him how you feel. Honesty and communication are sooo important. It doesn't have to be a blame game. Most likely its a combination of both of your faults. Let him know that so it doesn't feel like an attack. Tell him you love him but you're worried.

You may have to try more than once...let him know its important to you that you guys are just married but are also friends. If after several attempts...suggest therapy. If after that you get no results....consult your heart.

Sounds like he is not into it as much. Was he more talkative during your dating?

Try to know the reason behind this, make him comfortable by giving him trust. Things will be ok. I starting I was have the same issue with my wife, after her extra caring and attention to me I became very comfortable with her, now even we talk for every thing even our sex stories before we get married.

Its normal. I dont know about the marriage thing. But i dated a guy for a long time and he lived with me, so we were together 24\7. Sometimes when you get so familar with someone theres not much left to talk about. I know i gets lonely but i wouldnt let this ruin your marriage. He left me because he was bored... Im sorry but in no relationship will that fresh and exciting newly dating feeling will last. Its nothing either one of you did wrong. Try some new things to do.

Ooohhh! This is what my ex did to me when he decided he wanted to shag my sister. Suddenly everything I said was ignored, and if my sister said the same thing, he was all ears. Not sure if these two things have any relevance, but it totally reminded me of this. Maybe he's distancing himself from you for a reason. Something petty like jealousy. It sounds silly, but talk to him! Make him listen and tell him you feel ignored. Things won;t get better unless you drill it into his head.

I have tried to talk to him about not talking to me many times. It starts to turn into an argument so I drop it. I do not like to argue. I guess that's why we are like we are. I don't want confrontation so I let him do whatever, and then feel miserable. As a child I was taught to keep my thoughts and feelings inside so I find it hard to express them to him. I ago never brought it up while we were dating so I don't want him to think I'm turning into a crazed wife who bitches and complains all the time, ya know.

My wife only wants to talk when i am trying to sleep. Whenever there is a perfect opportunity to talk she would watch her soaps.

Be honest and tell him how you feel thats the best thing you can do i wish you the best of luck

Tell him how you feel. The great thing about relationships of any sort, is that there exists a shorthand.

There should be no need to beat around the bush. As a man I often become distant when I have things on my mind; perhaps something is troubling him?

You deserve better than this.