Is it normal for homosexuals to be so disconnected from reality?

Maybe because theyve spent a life of being something most people talk down about or even hate for no real reason, they have to be around like minded people so they dont hate themselves by the end of every day. I do agree that for some reason a lot of gays make being gay their defining quality, which is being unfair to themselves in my opinion, but it's been forced into their heads by small minded people that being gay IS their defining quality because it's "weird" or whatever.

Everyone gay or straight lives in their own bubble that's so far disconnected from reality it's mind numbing.

But we have to, living in truth would send you crazy.

Replace the word 'gay' with the word 'woman' and then again with 'man' and tell me if it's really so strange.

I haven't noticed much of a difference myself.

I've never met a gay person who consumes this "gay media" any more than a heterosexual person, and if any of them do consume it in private they certainly don't insulate themselves from heterosexual media or neutral media in public. I've never met a gay person who had exclusively gay friends either; they might have more than average, but is that so surprising when it's far more likely that they'll have similar life experiences as people of the same sexual orientation?

Honestly, my observations are the exact opposite for almost all non-heterosexual people (and heterosexual people, for that matter). Their sexual orientation is not a "lifestyle" but a small part of their much bigger identity that doesn't overflow into the rest of their life unless they choose to be part of a subculture that focuses on sexual orientation.

If what you say is true, "they live in a gay bubble secluded from the rest of the world, hang out with other gay people only, go out only to gay places". Then it would be safe to assume that you are living within this gay bubble or else you wouldn't have been able to meet or interact with any of them.

Just an observation.

You seem to be having a hard time accepting the choices your friend is making after coming out. Don't try to prove some point about gay politics, that's not what this is about. You're insecure that your friend's differences are affecting his personality and are changing him. This is new for him, he's going to show differences. His friends will influence him, he'll try to fit in a spot where he thinks he'll find someone to love, he feels safe in a spot where he has full acceptance. Here's the thing, as he further explores who his friends really are with this new reality, he's going to shorten that list. Gay and straight alike. What you have to decide is whether you've got the patience to deal with his friends attitudes, again gay and straight alike, until the annoying ones go away. Yeah, you'll have to deal with gay films and bars, just as he's been dealing with straight ones, but as long as you both have the respect to do so, everything else will go back to normal. Just let him get to know this part of him.

I know a lot of gay people and to be honest it's backwards from what I can tell. It's people around them that make it a big deal, people who overcompensate their support. How many times have I heard. "So I was at work and this Gay guy came in, he was cute you would've liked him." or "So there's this gay bar downtown..."

I mean sure, again this is from what I've seen of my gay friends, they talk about it now and again but no more than a guy will talk about a hot chick he wants to bang or a girl the cute guy she was making eyes at at the store. To be honest the thing I've noticed is the gay guys I know seem to be more interested in drama. Who's dating who, what interesting rumors are going on today. Call it cliche but that's what I've seen.

I mean being gay is a part of who they are and it's not just what they do in bed, it's their whole lifestyle. You kinda gotta expect it to come up. Take a moment and listen to the conversations you carry and tell me your straight/bi/pan tendencies don't pop up again and again.

Don't we all live in our own, little world?

I think that the OP is completely right in what he is implying. I have many gay friends and I have noticed that too. If you haven't notice the difference it's probably because you are not acquainted to many gays.

For a fact they think that everyone is potentially gay. Most of them think like that, to be exact. I have replace the word gay by woman and it makes no senses.

I have never noticed this. Then again, I have never really seemed to have spent large amounts of time with many gay people except, when I used to go to church. However, those people didn't strike me as being unrealistic/disconnected.

I do spend time with a doctor who is quite possibly gay but, she has yet to strike me as being closed off from the world. In fact, it is quite the opposite. The only way that I could see her being remotely closed off was if she refused to see heterosexuals or Gentiles.

Claiming that all gay men live in a gay bubble only invites the same in return: hetero men live in a hetero bubble.

Putting every member of a sexuality, gender, culture, faith, nation, et al. under the same perception umbrella, saying they are all the same, or that their lives are 100% absorbed by a label is bigotry and discrimination.