Is it normal for him to text me these messages then never see me?!

I met this guy out clubbing, brought him back. We didnt have sex but he stayed over and we massively hit it off, not on a superficial level but just genuinely liked each other alot, made eachother laugh etc. Kept banging our teeth together kissing cuz we couldnt stop smiling kind of thing. He told me hes slept with alot of girls but they usually dont get on, and that he really liked me and wanted to see me again. The thing is, he was just visiting friends for the weekend (I'm at uni, hes at a different one). So after that we started texting each other, like loads of messages a day about all kinds of things, some of them text sex, most of them not, and he came down to see me again a few weeks later.

We had a really great time, slept together alot, he left, we kept texting all day, everything normal. Then, at the point where he was sposed to come down and see me again, he had exams and also ran out of money, as most people do before xmas holidays and then it was the holidays (he lives even further away at when im at home) and now we havent seen each other for 2 months and its just weird! It feels like it's been so long that we're back at square one. He still texts me but since uni has resumed not half so much, mainly when he's drunk or he'll sext me, but to be honest I don't even know why he bothers doing that if hes not going to see me.

He lives about an hour and a half away on the train, and I'm pretty unimpressed that he hasnt made the effort to visit me since uni has started again. But he is a very popular busy kind of guy, and the initial connection which we shared was 100 percent genuine and a bit special (as evidenced by the fact that he bothered texting me day in day out for 2 months when we didnt see each other, considering the kind of guy he is). What on earth is going through his mind? And is it normal for him to keep contacting me and still clearly be attracted to me but not to come see me? Please comment, this is doing my head in!

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Comments ( 11 )
  • bryson_willis

    can't you go to his place? or ask him what's wrong?

    you need to find out more... otherwise you'll only have guesses for answers.

    in fact I would say, stop with the texts and go get some proper answers woman!

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    • I texted him last night just straight up inviting him to come visit and he never text back. Damn! Guess I got played! You live and learn eh...thanks for the advice though, least I know what's up now!

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      • bryson_willis

        invite? I thought *you* were meant to go to him. and text? text?!

        uh well, he wasn't worth the effort anyway :)

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  • imadragon

    It feels like he has no problem with long distance relationships, or dating. It seems like he likes you, but I hope he's the kind of guy to stick to one lady. (He said he slept around a lot.)

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  • Well if he does come to visit you, which he most likely wont since he just used for his own personal amusement, make sure to tell him to bring his dirty laundry so that he can at least gauge how well you know what your role is, probably wouldnt be a bad idea to do some cleaning as well so he can see how good your housekeeping skills are.

    Its funny how you women always fall for these "popular" (read douchebag) guys who are womanizers but somehow convince yourself that this guy wont do to you what he did to the dozens of women that came before you.

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  • dods22

    The honest truth is you were technicallya booty call as much as that hurts to hear. some guys will go the extra mile for that. Because if a guy truly likes you he will take the initiative to talk to you and to come and see you, guys aren't as difficult as we thnik they are. For a lot of guys its merely about sex and you just managed to be the girl that got caught in his web. he kept in contact with you for reassurance that he would still have a girl to.mess with if he was ever back in town. I'm sure you deserve better and he's clearly not worth the time, energy or the conversation.

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  • joybird

    I am going to tell you the 100% truth - and I would never deliberately hurt anyone....

    This guy is a really successful player.
    He charms and laughs the women into bed and then dumps them :o(

    You thought you were special but this is his modus operandi.

    He will keep you dangling, just in case you two are in the same town again and he will call on you for a booty call. Do yourself the biggest favour and delete / block his number and get out there girl and meet someone new. Please respect yourself a bit more and don't sleep with someone on the second date again - if you want a real relationship out of it.

    I'm sorry love but I see / hear this every single weekend in life - and the girls still think they've done something wrong.

    P.S. I have a friend who was engaged 5 times but only married the guy who wouldn't buy her an engagement ring. Do you understand this human characteristic?!

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    • Ahhh. You're so right. I guess I knew it I just didn't wanna admit it. Thanks so much for the advice!

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress

    You're over an hour away and he's slept with a lot of women.

    you might be in a situation where he's not interested in investing more. not if there's cheaper entertainment more local to him...

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  • ohheytherefog

    Second that ^

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  • toliety

    It's over honey

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