Is it normal for him to still be shy?

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I have been dating this guy for a few weeks now. We aren't technically official/exclusive, but it seems to be heading down that road. We are both college students and are now on break for the next 4 weeks (bad timing, right?) and I don't want we have to fizzle out. I try to talk to him every couple days, just to see how he is doing and show him that I am still interested in him. We have good conversations, and have some good laughs between one another, but I feel like I am always the one starting conversation. It was understandable in the very beginning, because he is really shy. I figure by now that he would be more comfortable just striking up random conversation while we are apart (we have both told each other that we like each other and I slept over there shortly before break). Is this normal? Would it be completely frightening to him to ask if he wanted to meet somewhere between our towns (we live less than an hour away from each other) for a date? I don't want to scare him off, but I know he is shy and a little self conscious, so I want to reassure him that I really like him.

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  • Nherheart
    12 years ago

    Maybe he still isn't fully comfortable around you! I am shy, and I usually stay that way unless I'm a reason not to be.

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  • ariannel
    12 years ago

    It's normal. His shyness is perfectly fine. If you really like him don't give up on him. He may turn out to be a gem. Good luck!

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  • power3r3
    12 years ago

    Guys who are shy around there GFs and other people are usualy feel proud and are outgoing with there friends. Bros before hoes lol

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  • Teethdude
    12 years ago

    Yeah its fine, i am probaby as shy as him.
    my girlfriend knows how shy i am and only recently i have become more outgoing towards her. so yeah. its normal. my gf thinks my shyness is quite cute.

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  • iindia
    12 years ago

    Absolutely go for it you only live once. Joke about how shy you are.

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  • Wandyr
    12 years ago

    Suggesting getting together for a date over break is a terrific idea! And I really wouldn't be surprised if he still feels insecure. It takes time to get over those kinds of feelings, and maybe there's something in his past that contributes to his shyness/insecurity. Like you said, it's only been a matter of weeks. Give it time and maybe ask him to pick a topic of conversation occasionally. Just don't shoot down whatever topic he picks - even if it doesn't interest you. You might need to draw him out to really get him to start conversations. Good luck!

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