Is it normal for him to not call me his gf?

What's the big deal nowadays with guys hesitating to call the girl they've been seeing for a while and supposedly only her, their Gf? Of course every one is different and every guy or at least every mature guy has their own way of getting into a relationship. I noticed that guys take it even more seriously than girls that the guy doesn't just jump into a relationship. Like my guy.

He's a serious guy when it comes to relationships but we have been talking and seeing eachother for more than a year and I feel like okay dude what's ur deal? Our last argument was very emotional and he had told me that I'm his girl and asked does it make a big difference to me to call me his Gf? I was like yes, why don't u wanna call me ur Gf anyways? If its not a big difference for you then say I'm ur Gf. He wouldnt after finally he had it and just said "okay ur my girl, ur my gf!" I wasn't sure how to take it but knowing him, it took a lot of effort for him to say it AND he wnt just say things just to say it and not mean it. However, after a while, it just seemed like he was acting no different. Is it cause he has considered me his Gf all along so I shouldn't expect his attitude to change? Or he really didn't mean it when he said I was his Gf? That's hard to believe cause of how like I said he doesn't just say things without meaning it.

Any who, what is the big deal? The reason why he wasn't committing to me was cause he has his own life to figure out first but I told him I'm with him n his journey as long as Im his and he's mine. If he's planning to be with me in the future and he knows I feel the same way why wait? But for him, he's so hesitant and shady. It's like his own way of presenting himself. He might cobsider me his Gf but maybe to himself he's still not ready to for example, make it "fb official" and show me on social media. That's a big one cause he doesn't AND why ? He has his own insecurity issues and then he wonders why I nag so much if were official or not. I asked him "so u want to look like a free man and single?" He goes "no IDC about looking single or not I don't have time for girls...ur my only girl..stop thinking I'm this player that I'm not." I wanna say okay but he has his shady ass moments where he thinks he's being smart n won't get caught but I always confront him bout them and he has the lamest responses. Wth is the deal?

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Comments ( 14 )
  • Darkoil

    He's probably waiting for a better girl to come a long. In the mean time you will probably suffice as a cum dumpster.

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    • Yep, that's the most possible case. Ive caught him a few times interested in other girls and I know one of them shot him down so he didn't stress about it since he has me. But back then, we were just talking but he still made it look like I was the only girl he was talking to when he could've just been honest and said he wants to talk to other girls. Sounds pretty douchey huh? What's even more annoying is he presents himself as this good, genuine guy especially around his family. I believe he is a good guy which is hard for me to believe he does these douchey things.

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  • Arm0se

    I don't like calling my girlfriend my girlfriend for three reasons.

    One: It's just not something I'm used to saying and it just feels so awkward when it comes out of my mouth.

    Two: I don't like to say it around other people because they "GIRLFRIEND!" act like they don't know what a relationship is and ask a bunch of annoying questions that just piss me off.

    Three: She's someone I literally can't live without. She means a lot more to me that just a regular "girlfriend".

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    • TrustMeImLying

      Bah. Usually I just flee the scene, but this time I will stay and confess that I accidentally downvoted you trying to upvote you.

      Anyway, you brought up a good point. I have an aversion to using the title girlfriend for similar reasons.

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  • LilakoiMoone

    Titles aren't everything. Some guys can use the title right away and some guys need time. There's no need to make a big deal out of this especially if hasn't done anything wrong. Enjoy the relationship for what it is and allow him time to make that move.

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  • hokisgurl

    Don't be another Jodi arias

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  • zsdworknman

    The neediness of some people is saddening sometimes you justify your needs however you feel it makes them no less petty

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  • zsdworknman

    Why do you need a title to feel that it is a relationship words are cheap and if he makes you feel good and happy than enjoy it if not than leave. The whole social media thing is very juvenile btw are you in school still?

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    • Nope I disagree with both of your opinions. Words may be cheap but shying away or getting away from calling me your gf screams SHADY.

      I'm done with school already and social media is a big deal today as much as it SHOULDN'T. Yes I agree it sounds juvenile but that is reality now as much as we don't want it to be. If he is not introducing me to his friends and acquaintances, meaning through social media, then how can I not feel like he's hiding me? In your fb, instagram or other profiles, your world sees you and whatever you post is out in the open and that's why I feel like he doesn't want to post one thing about me cause then its out there, people know about me, and he wants to look like a free man with no responsibilities.

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  • Yikes...... You're like a glorified fuck buddy. If he's not calling you his GF you're not.

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    • I guess...he recently sent me a message about the word "bae." Since thats what mostly people are calling their significant other now including us. So he sent it to me and it said " a way to call ur gf or bf..." so basically saying "see you are my gf and I consider you as my gf" yet it also said "crush" so I'm still confused.

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  • Terence_the_viking

    Maybe you freak him out.

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  • KeepsakeDoll

    If you feel that your partner is shady then you should probably trust your gut instinct.

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  • reminiscent

    I think this is weird... and I would think the person has commitment issues.

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