Is it normal for him to ignore me after this drunken disaster?

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I'd hooked up with this guy a couple times and brought him back to mine (but we didnt have sex). He's best friends with my best friends boyfriend (Johnnie), and last friday Johnnie mentioned to her that Matt (the guy I was hooking up with) didn't want to see me that night. I wasn't that bothered as we'd been spending alot of drunken nights together so I understood. I text Matt a few days later about a favour he'd promised me, we text back and forth, it was fine. So on tuesday, I got really drunk clubbing and left early, so I text him asking if he was out clubbing. He text back like yeah, I text him saying come over. This is where it gets hazy - he called me, and I spoke to him but it turned out it was his friend Johnnie on the line not him. They were in a club and I couldn't hear what Johnnie was saying but it makes me cringe because why would his friend call me? This is the same friend who mentioned to my friend that Matt hadnt wanted to see me the previous week, so I don't know if he was trying to warn me off Matt or something, plus I thought it was Matt for most of the conversation so god knows what I said! As I was seriously smashed, I text him after I got off the phone like come over, come over a few times after that. He didn't text back. This was at about 1.30am. I have a friend who works at the club Matt was in that night, and he said Matt was like the last person to leave at 4am (dunno if thats relevant). I checked my outgoing calls the next day and realised I'd also pocket dialled him a bunch of times. I text him to apologise the next day, saying "Sorry for texting you so much yesterday, I was smashed...so embarassed lol". He didn't text back. I saw him out briefly yesterday night but I didn't go over and say hi as I gathered that I've made a complete penis of myself. So is this as bad as I think? Have I made myself look like a crazy stalker or something? Is it normal for him to ignore me now and not realise I was just, you know, drunk? Or is it just a case of, he's not that into me and my behaviour killed what little interest he had? I should add that although we've hooked up about 4 times, I've only known him about a week and a half and I've never met him during the day, apart from in the morning if he's stayed over. Guys comments particularly appreciated.

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  • jbmitchell999
    13 years ago

    I only hot halfway through the story. You're f'd up.

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  • deepthought33
    13 years ago

    I'd say both. He wasn't that into you and you turned him off to whatever he might have had goin' for you.

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  • Savmagic
    13 years ago

    What's wrong with you? Are you that oblivious? He told someone he didnt want to see you is that not enough to know he doesn't fucking like you? And stop drinking so much it's not reflecting well on your choices or your thoughts

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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    Well, personally, if you'd have done that to me then I'd have been flattered and would probably have come over to see you. But I'm also aware that most of my mates aren't like me. They'd be more interested in you if you were distant and seemingly uninterested.

    Personally, I hate all the games and wish people would just do what they feel, whether drunk or sober.

    In your case, give him a bit of space for a week or two then arrange to be in the same place he is one night, and see how he acts. That'll give you your answer. Whatever you do (and I urge you incredibly strongly here), do not now repeatedly text him and ask him what you did wrong. Men (even me) hate that. It will never, ever make us change our opinion.

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