Is it normal for him to blow me off after every sign i give him?

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I have lost quite a bit of weight from my 157# figure to 122# figure. My hubby for quite a while has decided to blow me off and falls asleep so I don't ask him for anything. I ask him to sit and watch a movie with me he refuses. I ask him to shower with me and he acts like its such a burden. What do I do? It makes me feel like complete shit.

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  • NotFloydzie
    11 years ago

    Are you referring that he's no longer attracted to you because of your weight loss? Have you tried about talking to him about the way you feel?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I'm not going to speculate as to why he's recently lost interest, but its normal for him to lose interest. It may or may not be ephemeral. If you want to find out, communicate. If he doesn't open up, set an ultimatum, and if he still doesn't care, then he's definitely just not into you at all anymore.

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  • Sexylatina22
    11 years ago

    I really want to thank everyone for their input, it really helps a lot! It's nice to hear what others have to say who don't know you. Peoe who know you tend to tell you what you already know and a fresh point of view is always helpful. I've tried the advice that's been given to me and on some days he comes around and on others he doesn't. It's very confusing to me and I don't even know what to say or think anymore. At times it feels like a teenage relationship. It would be a lot less of a headache and roundabout if he would just tell me what's going on, but we all know relationships are not about having it easy. He's already made it clear that my body is part of the reason why he's being a bit of fish with me but my weight loss is out of my control, it's a medical issue which I'm being looked at for and the other part is stress from work and his medixal issue. So I don't know what else I can do but just wait till he decides to fully come around or realize that when he married me it was because he loves me for me not my physical appearance. Or what do you all think?.....

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    • oicuwantit2
      11 years ago

      Keep talking with him. Wife was always denying me too. She had hormonal desire issues as well. Had gone as far to suggest I should play with a swinging couple (no risk of me leaving for the other woman), but I think it was more of a test to see where I was at with her and our relationship. I explained I would never leave but little improvement. (and I did play with a couple, without her knowing) We continued to talk this out for years and it is getting better over time.

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  • wannarocktheworld
    11 years ago

    maybe he's having ego issues with your weight loss.

    many mental complexities arise out of bullshit ego problems.

    I'll tell you what. Watch out for little things.
    The things he used to do when you were in love. If he has stopped doing them totally, i've got bad news for you.

    Stress and tiredness don't last 24x7. Alright, stress may, but not to an extent that you will stop doing the little lovely things for you partner.

    BTW i'm single, never been in a relationship.

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  • la_uva_mojada
    11 years ago

    don't show him you're so interested. do your own thing, hang out with friends without him. He will wonder why you're not interested anymore.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    He sounds jealous of your new body from the sounds of it. I saw a TV sitcom episode like that. His wife lost allot of weight and looked great, despite him looking good to, he still felt inferior. Maybe that's it? Might want to just ask him

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  • Woopwoop
    11 years ago

    In my opinion he may have a problem that he's embarrassed about ( erectile dysfunction etc..) and doesn't want to disappoint you ... It problem isn't anything you've done!
    Male pride and all that crap..

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  • pappusharma
    11 years ago

    Speak with him and sort the problem. If he is having medical problem, help him with that. As you said he has testosterone problem, you give him medicine regularly, if their is some ointment to be applied, you apply it on his area. Help him, i think he needs your help rather than arousal, wait for some time and let therapy work, he'll be the one coming to you.
    If he does not have medical problem and still he is avoiding you, ask him if that is because of your lost weight, because some men love fluffy wives.
    And if every thing i said above is not valid, then may be its because of work pressure. Many men feel sex or similar activities as a pain in their ass because of work pressure.
    Ask him, their must be something that is eating him from inside...

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    11 years ago

    sounds like it's time to try communication.

    not just you telling him what he wants but you listening to what he wants too.

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  • Sexylatina22
    11 years ago

    I have spoken to him and he says the problem is his testosterone level but he will not refill his medication for it and "always forgets" to apply it. I don't think him backing so far away from is his testosterone problem, his performance maybe but not the rest. He doesn't like to talk about it and I can very well dress up for him and make myself look "cute" for him and it doesn't make any difference. He has told me my weight change has turned him off a little since smaller figures dint appease him, the weight loss was not my choice, j had a ainus surgery and began to drop pounds by the day I'm actually undergoing tests for it. I'm beginning to feel quite lonely and somewhat depressed about it. I have tried turning my full attention to my job and three children but I'm only 27 I can't do this for many more years and I'm not going to call our marriage quits over this. Thank you so much for your help and opinions.

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