Is it normal for him to be acting this way?

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I have a close friend and lately he's had some strange behavior toward me. When we were younger we got drunk together for a fair and he told me that he HAD feelings for me, but regretted never acting on them. We left it at that. Our friendship has continued through the years, but it isn't typical. We don't have to see each other every day to validate the fact that we are close friends. We can go months without seeing each other and when we finally do it's like nothing ever changed. But, this is all beside the point I suppose.

I'm a bit concerned that he is harboring romantic feelings toward me. We'll call him Ted for this post. One night my boyfriend and I went to hang out with Ted and his girlfriend. I gave Ted an old pipe, because I no longer needed it. He was extremely pleased with it. He then told me, "I'm going to name it *insert my name here*." His girlfriend was not pleased with this notion. Since then, every single time I hang out with this guy in a group setting, I always catch him staring at me. We went camping as a group and he was attached to my hip for the entire time. He would wake me (and only me) up in the morning and ask to smoke bong with me down by the lake. My boyfriend and I would stay at our trailer at times (to hopefully sneak in some sexy time) and instead of joining the group Ted would stay with us. Recently we went to a bar. I constantly caught him staring at me and I mean constantly. He would sing to me and dance and do goofy things to make me laugh.

Is this normal behavior for his side of the friendship? His actions have me a little bit confused. He compliments me on my hairstyles and clothing choices frequently as well. I know for a fact he doesn't act like this around other women either. Is it just because we're close friends?

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  • FlutterBlade
    9 years ago

    I find that he is holding back feelings for you but is scared to tell them either because have a boyfriend or you didn't think anything of it when he confessed.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Well, our conversation when he confessed basically went like this:

      Him: I don't know why you always talk about how no one wants you. Any guy would be lucky to have you.
      Me: Yeah, yeah, cue the pity speech haha.
      Him: No, I'm serious. There are plenty of guys I know that would date you. In fact, at the beginning of the school year...I was one of them. But, I was stupid not to act on them.
      Me: Really?
      Him: Yeah...but yo, *insert name here* is so hot. Do you think I should go for her?

      So, he was the one who kind of brushed it off after he confessed. Which is why I'm confused, because if he had wanted anything with me, would he have not acted on it at that time?

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      • FlutterBlade
        9 years ago

        Well i think you should talk to him but just edge it into the conversation somehow to see if he is true or not because he could of just been embarrassed

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  • Darkoil
    9 years ago

    He sounds like a pathetic worm.

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  • xstarxgazerxxx
    9 years ago

    He likes you. Not to generalize but .. let's look at it with science. As talkers, women are the winners because what is stimulated most at birth are the parts of the brain that process speech and language, because people will talk to baby girls. Men are more for physical things since as babies the motor skills are emphasized. Even the toys we buy children are different and stimulate different parts of the brain. While girls get dolls and mimic communication between them, boys will get hammers and will move them around (there are several studies proving this) going back to you.. for a man to be so verbal and have the ability to notice these slight details, when men as a whole are not detail oriented thinkers, who still test consistently lower than women for verbal skills and communication.. coupled with the behaviour and constant staring... i'd say he's going pretty out of his way and normal nature to notice you and be noticed by you. The question is why you had to ask, since clearly, you know he likes you but you can't admit that to yourself.

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