Is it normal for him to act like this?

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So I've known this boy for a lil over a year now and I'm deeply in love wit him. Things were great from the beginning and everything was fine. Now he's turning into a control freak and is starting to get a bit abusive. There has been mulitple times where he has done to me that I know I should have not tolerated and just up and walked away. But for some reason idk how to. There has been multiple times where he has snacthed things out of my hands and thrown it and broke it during a fight. Most of it though is never physical abuse towards me just very abusive words. When we get into fights he tells me I'm a piece of shit and how he should have never fallen for me and things of that matter. Its really starting to scare me. Sometimes he even gets these outbursts of just soo much anger and at times I scared to even be in the same room as him. Idk what to do anymore becuz I can't let him go. He's everything to me and more. I mean he's not like this all the time just sometimes. And when its good its great its the best but when its bad its awful. I need help and or advice on what to do. I don't wanna lose him but I don't want to be treated this waay anymore. Is this normal? Could I just be scared of him?

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  • nanimeow
    13 years ago

    First love? It will pass and you will meet someone who is a better match.

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  • howaminotmyself
    13 years ago

    You do not need him. He clearly doesn't respect you and you are letting him get away with it. The world (and people) has so much more to offer you. He is not everything, not even close.

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  • Peeve
    13 years ago

    You just have to put yourself first. If you think he's going to get worse, you have to leave, but if you think it's something that can be solved, you should see if you can get him into some sort of anger management or at least tell him how you feel.

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  • moomus
    13 years ago

    U deserve better. He treats u like shit, if he loved or respected you he wouldn't. I was with a man like this for 16 years. They don't change, I'd get out while you can.

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  • Shnaz
    10 years ago

    He is everything to you? I hope you have next of kin to identify your body when he mutilates you sometime down the road.

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  • kit-kat-bar
    13 years ago

    Get rid of him, it wont be easy but that is abuse i dont care if its physical, abuse is abuse and he is abusing you mentally, no one should act like that for any reason at all!!!!!!

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  • RagnarockVI
    13 years ago

    this could be a case of double personality ... when he is in a good mood ... you should go with him to a psychiatrist and see what's happening ... this is just a suggestion ... but if i were you i would have left him a long time ago

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  • Cain
    13 years ago

    He sounds like a psychopath to me...better leave him before he gets really violent

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    13 years ago

    Thats the problem. I try to stand up to him and it's like he just knocks me back down. He says he loves and wants to spend his life with me then why does he act this way? Just like now I'm a shitty gf cuz I didn't cook for him and I'm a dumb bitch. It's like what did I do to deserve this? I gave him my heart and all that I could and try to be the best girlfriend I can but it's just never enough it seems like. I am tired of getting putting down by him. It's like no matter how much of an ass he his to me and no matter how much I cry cuz of him I just can't let go. Maybe I'm just dumb. And the fact that we both have anger issuses doesn't help either.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    13 years ago

    I guess you could say that. But that's the thing I can't let him go. He's everything to me and more. It seems like no natter what we do to each other we just can't walk away from one another. Like I know he loves me and I def love him. But we just tend to clash at times. I mean when things are good its like something you'd see in a movie but when they are bad its like all hell broke lose. I just don't know what to do

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