Is it normal for her to still be so angry?

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My best friend just turned 21, (I'm a guy, she's a girl) and whose birthday party was a few weekends. I was trying to convince her all week that it was going to be a great night for her, but she was skeptical because a lot of people were bailing on her. So on the night of the party, I ran into a few college friends I haven't seen in over 2 years, It turns out I lost track of the time and spent almost the entire night with them instead of my best friend. So I was there at the same place, but just kind of lost track of what I was doing, stupid I know.

This action has really, really upset my friend. I didn't mean to do it at all, I just got caught up in trading old stories. My best friend felt neglected, and is so mad at me that she isn't sure where to begin for me to make it up to her. I have apologized many times, and I have told her I will do anything to make it up to her. She called me a liar and a hypocrite for what I did. I feel absolutely awful and she knows I do. She won't talk to me, and when she does she's very cold and very angry. I need advice please, I want to make it up to her and just get my best friend back, she means the world to me. I know it's going to take time, but I'm willing to do anything to fix this. I also know it will take time for her to trust me again. On top of this now she doesn't know if she considers me a best friend anymore. I've tried anything I can think of and nothing has worked, I've apologized very heartfilled and sincerely but its failed. Does anybody have any more suggestions what I can do?

Thank you for any help you provide.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Hmmm... intresting story.

    It's missing an important peice though, how long has she been mad at you?

    Girls are sensitive, and I would be upset too. After a week or so though, it might be a teeny bit abnormal for her still to be super mad. I wouldn't expect her to be buddy-buddy, but hopefully she'll start to give you another chance as her best friend after that much time. All girls are diffrent though, so the time that'll pass before she'll forgive you is unpredictiable. Execpt, I am sure of the fact that you WILL become friends again. If, like you said, she knows you feel bad about it she'll eventually forgive you, I guarentee it. Besides, friendship is bigger then any party, even if it was her birthday. Not saying what you did was okay. I just think she'll realize it was just one night and it's not worth losing a close friend!

    Hope this helped :)
    - A girl.

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    • stonecutters93
      12 years ago

      Thanks a ton for answering. She said yesterday everything was fine, but her actions speak differently. She still feels distant and doesn't seem to want to talk much. And if I leave her alone and give her space for a few days she wonders why I don't message her. She's been mad at me for about 2 weeks now. I'm trying so hard to make it right but I feel like my efforts aren't working, and might never work.

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      • FussyCarrot
        12 years ago

        i agree, she will forgive u. remember a big helper in these sort of situations is empathy. get her to sit down with u and go over the situation together(to difuse the situation as much as possible), do a very kind gesture for her, and ask her if u two can try to get back to normal. Girls like to feel as if u took time into ur apology and like u really do care about her. just show her that. tell her everything that u know she wants to hear and is true at this point which is : u care, ur sorry, and it wont happen again
        goodluck

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      • The_Gnome
        12 years ago

        She will forgive you: it seems to me part of her wishes not to lose such a great friend, but another part is still upset about the party... patience is a virtue!

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  • weirdppl
    12 years ago

    2 weeks is nothing lol i was mad at my friend for 6 months before we went back to normal, and it was only because my friend was nice to me and didnt give up

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