Is it normal for her to be asking my bf these things?

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My boyfriend tells me that his female co worker talks to him about all of her guy problems and asks him for advice. She also talks to others about it too, though. She also asks my boyfriend questions about us. I almost get the vibe she's trying to see how faithful or serious we are. For example, he told me that the other day she asked him: "do you get excited when you get out of work and go to see your girlfriend?" And "do you still get butterflies?" Then on a different day she got a haircut and asked my boyfriend "do you notice anything different about me?" .... he obviously knew she was fishing for attention, and said "yeah, you got a haircut!" But didn't tell her what she wanted to hear (maybe that it looked good or she looked pretty? Idk) There are many other questions she asks him about me; not just our relationship, but about me personally.
What do you guys think? Could she be into him?
Also: every time I visit him at his work (we sometimes have lunch together) she doesn't seem to have much interest in talking to me or getting to know me.. which surprises me cuz she talks to my bf and confides in him sooo much. I tried to spark a conversation with her one day and I got one word, short answers. I asked my bf why she was like this and he said he didn't know and that I might be overthinking it. I mean, I could be overthinking all of this (as I sometimes do with things), but I'm asking you guys because I'm just not sure if it's normal?

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    I don't know if it's normal or not, but it's obviously not something you can do anything about, so you need to trust your bf and stop stressing about what might or might not be going on in his co-worker's head.

    I'm wondering why he's giving you all this information if it's not important? Maybe trying to make you jealous? Why does he answer her questions about his relationship with you?

    It seems to me he could stop this if he wanted to by just ignoring her questions so maybe you should switch your focus from her behaviour to his responses to it.

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    • sugarrmagnolia
      7 years ago

      So should he not be answering the questions? What should he be doing?

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      • Angelandme
        7 years ago

        Lol the classic "tell the gf about the girl who's probably interested in you so she gives you more attention and watch her get a little flustered (which is attractive cuz guys like seeing women hint at seeing someone as possibly competitors)" technique? Idk, but as a guy who has utilized this technique I can at least say it does exist.

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      • Ellenna
        7 years ago

        Not answering her questions would be a start: if I were you I'd be asking him why he's giving her all this information. See Tonyyaa's response below, he could very well be right about your boyfriend

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  • Drphillis
    7 years ago

    My Dear
    This Gal is after your guy and it is up to you to put a stop to it!

    She is using her girl power to steal him from you and all you have to do is use your girl power to keep him...

    Keep him interested in you, keep yourself all spruced up for him, ask him what he wants when you two are in bed? I assure you that he will soon lose interest in that little Charlotte...

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  • Cedric_Diggory
    7 years ago

    Does her new haircut look like your current haircut? Does she try to resemble you? Maybe that bitch be cray and she is trying to be a copy of you and have sex with your boyfriend after she drugs him

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  • Justmehere
    7 years ago

    She's either trying to make you jealous, or, he's really enjoying the attention. Or both. In my own case, my ex-wife never liked my now former very close female friend and business associate, as we spent a lot of time together and knew each other's personal lives. Friend was petite, hot, and steamy-sexy, and knew my ex wife didn't like her.

    We'd be at a function, and friend/business associate would post us on social media, heads together, looking like a couple, and telling me things like "let's see what SHE says about this when you get home later". They never met, but, didn't need to; Ex wife would see the texts business associate would send me, making side-private jokes, showing me her new haircut, or teasing about "lying here all by myself..comfy shorts n bikini top".

    I knew she/business associate loved to tease and was an attention flirt, and, that she knew my ex would flip her lid when seeing our interaction. I had to put a stop to both, for my own sanity. I'd have easily jumped on the business associate (we actually did trade a few liplocks after dinner one night), and, as my marriage was already in the crapper due to ex's drinking, didn't want to give her any more ammo to use.

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  • Keepsake
    7 years ago

    Sounds like she just wants attention and is interested in your boyfriend. Your boyfriend is obviously not interested, though.

    Keep in mind that some guys tend to be oblivious to things like that. Just tell him to stop giving out information or keep a distance from the girl.

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  • ZaneT
    7 years ago

    If your bf loves you, then you got nothing to worry about even if she does like him. Also to consider: Are you asking your bf for this info about her, or is he just coming home to tell you unpromted? There's different ways of looking at it. You don't wanna jump to the wrong conclusion.

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  • tonyyaa
    7 years ago

    I'm a guy and he's trynna get you jealous... He's insecure and wants to feel loved... he's probably making up those questions as well

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