Is it normal for girls to prefer "experienced" guys to male virgins?
So I was finishing up finals when I realized, wow, I am a sophomore in college and am still a virgin. The apparent spontaneity of this…realization…sounds stupid, I know, but what I mean to say is that the reality of it suddenly hit me. And it got me thinking. I am not super-attractive; I workout, am intelligent and charming in that sort of clueless, sincere puppy-dog sort way; but nothing breathtaking.
For the longest time I chose abstinence as a means of spiritual fulfillment (grew up Catholic) and thought nothing of it. Now though, I’m worried that my status as a virgin might put off girls I’m attracted to. The truth of the matter is that now, I’m unsure if virginity is even something valued much in guys (especially in today’s society). I mean, do girls really see this as a positive thing?
Let me speak frankly. I occasionally partake in porn (what guy doesn’t), have healthy friendships with multiple girls, and am far from shy.
When I do come across that partner for life (and decide to have sex), I plan to follow her every word, to look her in the eyes the entire time (keep those lights on), and to be as humble, eager, and loving as possible. And I have quite an imagination, so hopefully that's a plus.
Now, my issue is that the consensus to me appears to indicate that women don’t like to “train” virgin males. They prefer experience. Confiding in some buddies of mine, all them seem to indicate women liked to be “handled” during sex, where it is a well-practiced man doing the work. Now that seems a bit chauvinistic even to me, but honestly, will a women date, marry, or have sex with a guy knowing he’s a virgin? Is it normal for a girl to prefer that sort of ill-familiarity with sex in a partner?
(P.S. I am in no way insecure, just curious and a bit concerned. All comments welcomed)