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Well I always share every secret of my life with my girlfreind but I noticed they never tell you most of the things or almost everything related to their past affairs
So I have actually two questions
1- Is it normal for girls to hide their past affairs
2- IS it normal for Boys to ask girls how many guys you have slept with in the past?
The past is the past. As long as your girlfriend is faithful to you alone it doesn't matter if she got dped by a bunch of guys in her past affairs.
It's normal for girls to hide their past affairs. Why? Because they want you to see them as virginal angels that you would one day marry. Not a slut that every guy has had. They know deep down inside that men don't commit to sluts.
It's fine for a guy to ask about past relationships. But, honestly, why would you want to know about the previous men your girl has made-out with and potentially slept with? I feel like that would be a turn-off.
1.) Yes, because girls get judged much more easily, quickly & unfairly by the double standards of society; also, guys will change the way they think about a girl depending on the number & make decisions to reevaluate everything about her & the future based on a meaningless detail from the past. We feel like if we don't say the right number that will be enough to be written off. Everyone has had different life experiences, & there are too many other important technical details left out of the question to make it easy to consider it subjective. Honesty is important while in a relationship, but any activity occurring outside of it is between the participants & no one else's business.
2.) It's very normal for guys to ask, but I'd seriously like to know why because it seems unless the number is significantly lower than theirs they get depressed, &/or they ask follow-up questions involving details or comparisons which is confusing because I didn't think anyone enjoyed talking or hearing about sexual past escapades from past relationships. No one I've ever met considered it a turn on to hear about and subsequently imagine their love interest being intimate with others
Actually for some knowing every detail of girls past experiences is a turn on However if someone is emotionally attached then definitely its a turn off....
Idk, in my experience guys have said that, but then later they'll bring up something about it in a passive- aggressive manner. Divulging such details has never ended positively & I have regretted believing them pretty much every time. Also, if that's the deal, they should state that when they ask as an explanation. Girls would be much more forthcoming if they knew it wasn't so they could be judged & "matched".
I'm curious what you mean by "emotionally detached." Do you mean for her at the time? Like if it was a casual sex situation rather than a deep, loving relationship? Frankly, if I had to hear about my partner's past I'd really rather not hear about how in love he as and how the sex was incredible & they had some deep connection unless she was dead. I think it's kind of a girl thing. But as for this criterion for the story to turn you on, sorry to say & no offense, but it just sounds like another way to judge the person based on your own standards. & their development is limited by the experience you've had & factual information you've taken the time to accumulate.
nice thoughts I appreciate that really,
in a deep, loving relationship it doesn't matter and I agree guys may and often use that little detail to hurt girls through teasing words reminding all that dirty detail every now and then or in any future quarrels
I can understand now the feelings attached to hiding past thanks
By the way what is the right way to ask such details any suggestions?
1) I think a lot of girls will do this, basically to keep from being perceived as either a slut or a prude. But if in a committed relationship, I believe honesty is a must.
2) Most guys want to read about, watch, dream of and have sex whenever possible. It's quite normal for a guy to have curiosity about his girl's former relationships and detailed telling of particular incidents could be a turn on for him.
1) I suppose yes. So long as you plan on being faithful from this point on I don't see why there is any need to say anything. People make mistakes and that's okay.
2) It's none of the guy's business. So no.
I voted yes because the general opinion is that guys frown upon girls with multiple partners.
As a girl myself I tend to try and not scare people away when I seek to date them. With my current BF I was not in the mood for a relationship so I kinda told him EVERYTHING and he did the same back, then we fell for one another anyway xD
Point is, your girlfriend is probably scared of your opinions and thoughts about her past adventure.
Oh yes I agree girls tell everything only in case when they are not serious in a relation that is really strange.....
Not if you think about it. I'm mature enough to know that I'd not even want to date a guy who'd dislike me based on my sexual preferences and activities so I sort of need to tell him nice and slow anyway.
But many girls fear rejection.
I am a fan of honesty. So the answer to question #2 would be "yes". First question - I don't know, it's not unnormal, I guess, but I would strongly dislike it.