Is it normal for girls to behave this way in a relationship
Okay, so I got into an argument with her over the phone. And then the conversation went okay until we started talking about some past things, and then I noticed the tone of her voice. And then that triggered my reaction, which was an outburst.
When we talk about issues and old stuff, I'm usually calm until she gets defensive. And I'm not afraid to talk about what I did wrong until I notice that the other person is just only willing to point out what I'm doing wrong, and then I attack back. And then the idea of communication ends there.
And It's sick how you can't talk to a person about an issue or a problem without them getting hypersensitive and nasty. She usually feels threatened and bullied when you talk to her, and then you feel backed into a corner because anything you say back to her, will make her feel even more angrier.
And it's been this way since I met her, so I slowly became this way as well. So we began to clash.
Couples don't usually communicate, and I tried to be open about what bothers us. But that would lead us into pointing fingers, and heated arguments.
I admit when I'm doing something wrong but when the other person doesn't accept it, and continues to twist my actions, and create the illusion that there's something more, things build up inside of me.
And she'd admit when she was wrong (rarely, because of her pride and ego) but she'd make excuses, and act as if what I was doing was 10x's worst.
I shameless put myself out there over and over again because I wanted this person to trust that I'm being real with them but I only ended up with the shorter end of the stick every time.
She say it's me, and I know I'm not perfect, and I do mess up like any person. But with her, it feels like walking on eggshells. You say one thing wrong, anything wrong, and she has to reply with some technical response, causing you to react with hostility. And then that sparks an argument.
And last night, I snapped. I cursed at her, and hung up on her on the phone.
I found myself trying and trying to wonder what's wrong with me, beating myself up, wondering if I really am saying things to offend her but I became tired of readjusting my attitude for her, and it not working. I'd even ask her if I changed, and she'd say "No".
I would purposely behave perfect, what I thought she'd be more comfortable with, to see if that's how I should act. But still, I found myself becoming insecure and depressed about my personality, wondering if there was something really wrong with me.
I'm usually a person who's angry at the time, and I won't say anything because I don't always speak up for myself. So it builds up, and it becomes an outburst.
I know I'm immature and have my own issues but this person never admit theirs, and pretend that they're always thinking logical or rational.
We're both 22, btw.